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Jay Shetty PodcastIf You Want To Find & Build The Perfect Relationship, WATCH THIS! | Jay & Radhi Shetty
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Falling in love with a partner who keeps changing
Radhi reflects on how both partners evolve over time and how noticing that growth can keep the relationship feeling alive. She describes the idea that, when you pay attention, you end up “falling in love with a different person” again and again.
- •Partners aren’t the same person year to year
- •Not observing each other’s growth can dull the spark
- •Attraction can come from noticing new sides of the same person
- •The relationship stays fresh when you keep paying attention
Behind-the-scenes of their Red Table Talk surprise appearance
Jay and Radhi recount how they thought only Jay would be on camera, leading Radhi to dress quickly and casually. Once they arrived, cameras were rolling immediately, and the team invited Radhi to join the episode unexpectedly.
- •Jay told Radhi she wouldn’t be on camera, so her outfit didn’t matter
- •They were filmed from the moment they arrived
- •Jada and the team suggested Radhi join the episode after a few minutes
- •Jay describes instantly regretting his earlier advice
Radhi’s anxiety, being pushed into discomfort, and what she learned
Radhi explains the intense anxiety she felt agreeing to go on camera without mental preparation. She shares that being “shoved out” of her comfort zone ended up feeling meaningful and taught her the value of sharing what she’s learned.
- •Radhi felt she couldn’t say no once cameras were present
- •She describes intense physical anxiety and feeling mentally unprepared
- •She believes she would’ve declined if asked earlier with time to think
- •Watching it back helped her appreciate sharing and being part of something special
How they keep attraction after the honeymoon phase: experiences and effort
They shift into listener topics, starting with how to sustain attraction after the honeymoon period. They discuss making conscious effort, prioritizing shared experiences, and learning what each person finds fun.
- •They discuss what “honeymoon phase” might mean in relationships and marriage
- •Radhi emphasizes conscious effort and understanding each other’s idea of fun
- •They share examples of activities they enjoy together vs. separately
- •Jay emphasizes prioritizing experiences rather than taking chemistry for granted
Disney World, showing up for each other, and small habits like grooming
Jay describes how shared experiences create emotion and meaning, using their Disney World trip as an example—especially since Radhi was unwell but still participated. Jay also mentions practical effort like grooming as part of not taking attraction for granted.
- •They describe Jay’s excitement for Disney World and Radhi catching the excitement
- •Radhi went even though she felt unwell, because it mattered to Jay
- •Jay reflects on creating experiences that make people feel something
- •Jay mentions grooming habits as a way to maintain effort in attraction
Letting your partner become someone new (and loving them for it)
Radhi returns to the idea that growth is constant, and Jay builds on it by saying you have to stay open to who your partner is becoming. They contrast loving someone for who they are versus trying to reshape them into who you want.
- •Radhi reiterates that people change and spark can fade if you don’t notice it
- •Jay emphasizes accepting change instead of resisting it
- •They acknowledge they are very different people with shared deeper values
- •They highlight loving each other for who they are, not a “project” to fix
When work gets busy: not feeling unseen and building independence
They answer a question about feeling unseen when one partner is deeply committed to a project. Radhi says Jay’s attentiveness and “quality over quantity” makes her feel prioritized, and Jay explains how he uses time apart to invest in himself.
- •Radhi says Jay’s focus and attentiveness prevent her from feeling unseen
- •They describe learning to read each other’s emotions better over time
- •Jay recounts a long stretch of being in different countries and missing Radhi
- •Jay describes filling time with self-investment (tennis, gym, friends) and enjoying reunion
Pet peeves: missing chargers and Jay’s too-good memory
They lighten things up by sharing what annoys them most about each other. Jay jokes about Radhi moving his chargers (even after he bought a bright pink cable), while Radhi says Jay’s sharp memory makes her second-guess herself.
- •Jay explains his system of chargers in every spot and how they “go missing”
- •Radhi jokes that iPhone chargers all look the same
- •Jay bought a bright pink cable and still couldn’t prevent the mix-ups
- •Radhi says Jay’s photographic memory can be annoying because it makes her doubt her own memory
Words that sting, honest feedback, and being careful in conflict
They discuss comments that hurt but became valuable lessons. Radhi shares Jay’s feedback about procrastination and time use, while Jay talks about learning to avoid language that creates distance and appreciating Radhi’s blunt honesty about his work.
- •Radhi describes struggling with procrastination and prioritization and hearing Jay’s feedback
- •Both note they try not to use harsh, unfiltered words in arguments
- •Jay explains he stopped saying he could “live without” Radhi because it pushes a partner away
- •Jay says Radhi’s honest creative feedback can sting but ultimately helps him improve
Public vs private: why they share differently on social media
Radhi explains why she posts less about their relationship and prefers keeping some expressions of love private. Jay shares that he posts relationship content when he believes it can be useful and relatable, showing that differences can still work.
- •Radhi says she’s more private and prefers expressing love directly rather than online
- •She worries overly “happy couple” posts can agitate people who feel sad about love
- •Jay says he shares when it can help others see relationships can work through differences
- •They affirm it’s okay for partners to express differently in public
Pressure, coaching, and differences in discipline (including sugar)
They answer whether they’ve felt pressured by each other and largely say no, describing encouragement as coaching rather than forcing. They discuss how Radhi supports Jay’s health journey with education, how Jay supported her spiritual growth without pressure, and they joke about their opposite approaches to sugar.
- •Jay says Radhi guided his physical health with coaching, not pressure
- •Radhi describes initially worrying she’d feel pressured by Jay’s spiritual background but didn’t
- •They emphasize motivation sticks more when it’s self-chosen, not forced
- •They joke about Jay’s all-or-nothing approach to sugar versus Radhi’s moderation
What makes them feel loved: affirmations, surprise parties, and community-building in LA
They describe unique ways they make each other feel loved, from Jay’s playful affirmations to Radhi’s surprise parties that Jay sees as a true “gift.” Jay then expands into how they found meaningful friendships in LA and began hosting spiritual community events at home instead of relying on stereotypes or expectations.
- •Radhi shares Jay’s repeated phrase: “You are loved… cherished like a little cherub”
- •Jay says Radhi’s surprise parties gave him something he couldn’t buy himself
- •Jay describes the emotional crash after his live show and coming home to a surprise celebration
- •They reject stereotypes about LA, share that they found deep friends, and describe hosting alcohol-free spiritual gatherings at home
Reading emotions, staying playful, and rapid-fire relationship questions
They cover signs a partner is upset, the importance of clearly stating emotions, and whether they still try to impress each other. They also talk about what they love about each other’s humor, share a Halloween costume story, and close with what they’re proud of plus a fill-in-the-blanks and quick-fire round about favorites and goals.
- •They contrast Jay’s obvious emotions with Radhi going quiet or crying during morning meditation
- •They highlight explicitly saying “I’m sad, it’s not about you” to reduce anxiety and mind-reading
- •They say impressing each other matters for keeping energy and spark alive
- •They share humor and stories (live show jokes, Halloween costume mishap) and end with pride, goals for 2020, and quick favorites
