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They’re Trying to Manipulate You

Manipulation works when someone convinces you that their reaction is your responsibility. In this episode, I break down how to recognize manipulative behavior, why it can be hardest to see in the people closest to you, and what to do when someone uses guilt, pressure, fear, or obligation to get their way. Order The Next Conversation Workbook: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/workbook Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/newsletter Thank you to our Sponsors: OneSkin: Go to https://oneskin.co/jefferson and use code JEFFERSON to get 15% off BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Order my new book, The Next Conversation, today! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/topic Join my School of Communication. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/membership Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@justaskjefferson?lang=en Follow me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/

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Sep 8, 202618mWatch on YouTube ↗

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EPISODE INFO

Released
September 8, 2026
Duration
18m
Channel
The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Watch on YouTube
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Manipulation works when someone convinces you that their reaction is your responsibility. In this episode, I break down how to recognize manipulative behavior, why it can be hardest to see in the people closest to you, and what to do when someone uses guilt, pressure, fear, or obligation to get their way. Order The Next Conversation Workbook: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/workbook Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/newsletter Thank you to our Sponsors: OneSkin: Go to https://oneskin.co/jefferson and use code JEFFERSON to get 15% off BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Order my new book, The Next Conversation, today! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/topic Join my School of Communication. https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/membership Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jefferson_fisher Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@justaskjefferson?lang=en Follow me on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffersonfisher/

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  • Jefferson Fisher

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    Host of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast, providing communication and relationship advice focused on handling conflict and manipulation.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast, featuring Jefferson Fisher, They’re Trying to Manipulate You explores stop manipulation by refusing responsibility for others’ reactions and urgency Jefferson Fisher defines manipulation as succeeding when you treat another person’s reaction as your responsibility to manage.

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