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Lewis HowesGabrielle Bernstein on How to Turn Fear into Faith with Lewis Howes
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Gabrielle Bernstein’s path from trauma-driven control to faith-led surrender
- Gabrielle Bernstein tells Lewis Howes she wrote The Universe Has Your Back during what she calls the worst year of her life, and that the writing and editing process helped heal her while she was struggling.
- She shares that she recovered a repressed memory of childhood sexual abuse, connects it to her earlier substance addiction, and describes the early stages of trauma recovery as intensely difficult but ultimately freeing.
- Bernstein describes how she replaced drugs and alcohol with compulsive work, argues that addiction often stems from trauma, and highlights “work addiction” as a socially rewarded but damaging pattern.
- She explains her approach to transforming fear into faith: witness fear without judgment, use prayer/affirmation to become willing to see differently, and then accept guidance when it appears through people and resources.
- The conversation also explores how letting go of control changed Bernstein’s marriage and business, deepening intimacy, shifting masculine/feminine dynamics, and making her more calm during her biggest book launch.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasWriting the book became part of Bernstein’s healing process, not just a product for readers.
She says she wrote the book during the worst year of her life, and the discipline of meeting deadlines, editing, and returning daily to love/faith became part of what helped her recover while she was still in it.
A resurfaced trauma memory reframed her past addiction and sparked a new recovery journey.
She describes uncovering a repressed traumatic memory of childhood sexual abuse and links it to earlier addiction; she emphasizes how terrifying remembering trauma can be and notes she was supported by therapy and trauma-focused modalities.
Work can function like an addiction when it becomes compulsive and life becomes unmanageable.
She says her drive to constantly work and create became a substitute numbing strategy after getting sober, calling it “work addiction,” and points out it can be socially praised even when it harms health and relationships.
Letting go of control increased her capacity to receive support and feel “taken care of.”
She describes a major shift from controlling everything to letting people help—hiring more support and allowing her husband to run the business—leading to more calm, receptivity, and an easier book launch despite higher stakes.
Fear transformation starts with nonjudgmental awareness and willingness to see differently.
Her first step is to witness fear without judgment, name it as resistance, and use prayer/affirmation (e.g., willingness to see differently) to open to guidance that can arrive through people such as therapists, teachers, or mentors.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesI believe I wrote this book for myself. I wrote it during the worst year of my life.
— Gabrielle Bernstein
The process of writing the book actually healed me throughout the year.
— Gabrielle Bernstein
While I had put down the drink and the drug and had been clean for 11 years, my work, create, create, while it was funneled into something that was serving the world greatly, it was killing me.
— Gabrielle Bernstein
If you don't show up for what's up, it will keep showing up.
— Gabrielle Bernstein
I believe that a spiritual journey truly is unlearning fear and remembering love.
— Gabrielle Bernstein
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SPEAKERS
Lewis Howes
hostHost of The School of Greatness and interviewer focused on personal development and performance.
Gabrielle Bernstein
guestSpiritual teacher and author of books including "The Universe Has Your Back."
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