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How to Shift Your Identity & Become Instantly Magnetic | Dr. Kim Foster

🔔 Subscribe for more great content: https://www.youtube.com/lewishowes ▶️ Recommended for you: https://youtu.be/kAzR5Vu9TA0 You can have every fact, every plan, and still quit by Thursday, because the story underneath never changed. Dr. Kim Foster, a family physician who practiced for twenty years, sat down with Lewis after a patient with rising blood pressure told her, “I'm just not an exercise person.” That one line reframed everything: behavior change is an identity problem wearing an information costume. Her book, Redesigning You, turns that into a three-step method of recognizing the old story, redesigning it, and then going out to collect proof. She talks about the bridge identity, the small believable stretch your brain will actually accept instead of a mirror affirmation it answers with, “Interesting. Based on what?” Habit stacking is the app. Identity is the operating system, and glitchy apps on an old system crash on the hard days. Then she tells on herself. She walked into the woods behind her clinic after stitching a patient's hand, realized she never wanted to go back, wrote her resignation letter, and then stayed through an entire pandemic wave anyway rather than leave at the worst moment. Her last day came in her birthday month, and she sat in her car and cried for fifteen minutes before driving home with the windows down, free. Listen for the moment a senior resident nodded at her to keep going while ribs cracked under her hands, and for what that taught her about self-doubt. You'll start catching your own identity statement, about money, sleep, confidence, relationships, the ones you say like they're just facts. Then you get to argue back. Redesigning You: Change Your Inner Story, Transform Your Health https://amzn.to/3SFH5z2 Dr. Kim's Website https://drkimfoster.com/ Dr. Kim's YouTube https://youtube.com/kimfosterMD Dr. Kim's Instagram https://instagram.com/drkimfoster Listen to this episode on the go! 🍎 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-school-of-greatness/id596047499 🟢 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/07GQhOZboEZOE1ysnFLipT?si=a03d916bade54d4f For more info about this episode, go to https://lewishowes.com/1981 💰 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book "Make Money Easy" today!https://lewishowes.com/moneyyou 📙 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book "The Greatness Mindset" today! https://lewishowes.com/gmyo 📤 sign up for my FREE newsletter https://lewishowes.com/greatnessdelivered Follow Lewis! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lewis Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lewishowes/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/LewisHowes 💻 Website: http://lewishowes.com/ 📲 For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Get More Greatness! Greatness Clips: https://www.youtube.com/@GreatnessClips Spanish: https://www.youtube.com/@LewisHowesEspañol Portuguese: https://www.youtube.com/@LewisHowesPortugues Lewis Howes Shorts: https://www.youtube.com/@lewishowesshorts 00:00 - Information vs. Identity Problems 05:25 - How Identity Keeps You Stuck 08:10 - The Danger of Fighting Identity 12:04 - How to Use Bridge Identities 16:39 - 3-Part Framework for Lasting Change 18:38 - Leaving a 20-Year Medical Career 25:56 - Navigating the Grief of Change 34:03 - Why Shaming Yourself Always Fails 36:11 - Beliefs Before Habit Stacking 43:06 - Reframing Severe Self-Doubt 48:05 - Habits to Become Instantly Magnetic 1:00:35 - Three Truths & Defining Greatness T-Mobile 5G Home Internet. T-Mobile.com/HomeInternet #greatness #inspiration #motivation

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September 16, 2026
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1h 4m
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Lewis Howes
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🔔 Subscribe for more great content: https://www.youtube.com/lewishowes

• Recommended for you: https://youtu.be/kAzR5Vu9TA0 You can have every fact, every plan, and still quit by Thursday, because the story underneath never changed. Dr. Kim Foster, a family physician who practiced for twenty years, sat down with Lewis after a patient with rising blood pressure told her, “I'm just not an exercise person.” That one line reframed everything: behavior change is an identity problem wearing an information costume. Her book, Redesigning You, turns that into a three-step method of recognizing the old story, redesigning it, and then going out to collect proof. She talks about the bridge identity, the small believable stretch your brain will actually accept instead of a mirror affirmation it answers with, “Interesting. Based on what?” Habit stacking is the app. Identity is the operating system, and glitchy apps on an old system crash on the hard days. Then she tells on herself. She walked into the woods behind her clinic after stitching a patient's hand, realized she never wanted to go back, wrote her resignation letter, and then stayed through an entire pandemic wave anyway rather than leave at the worst moment. Her last day came in her birthday month, and she sat in her car and cried for fifteen minutes before driving home with the windows down, free. Listen for the moment a senior resident nodded at her to keep going while ribs cracked under her hands, and for what that taught her about self-doubt. You'll start catching your own identity statement, about money, sleep, confidence, relationships, the ones you say like they're just facts. Then you get to argue back. Redesigning You: Change Your Inner Story, Transform Your Health https://amzn.to/3SFH5z2 Dr. Kim's Website https://drkimfoster.com/ Dr. Kim's YouTube https://youtube.com/kimfosterMD Dr. Kim's Instagram https://instagram.com/drkimfoster Listen to this episode on the go! 🍎 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-school-of-greatness/id596047499 🟢 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/07GQhOZboEZOE1ysnFLipT?si=a03d916bade54d4f For more info about this episode, go to https://lewishowes.com/1981 💰 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book "Make Money Easy" today!https://lewishowes.com/moneyyou 📙 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book "The Greatness Mindset" today! https://lewishowes.com/gmyo 📤 sign up for my FREE newsletter https://lewishowes.com/greatnessdelivered Follow Lewis! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lewis Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lewishowes/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/LewisHowes 💻 Website: http://lewishowes.com/ 📲 For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Get More Greatness! Greatness Clips: https://www.youtube.com/@GreatnessClips Spanish: https://www.youtube.com/@LewisHowesEspañol Portuguese: https://www.youtube.com/@LewisHowesPortugues Lewis Howes Shorts: https://www.youtube.com/@lewishowesshorts 00:00 - Information vs. Identity Problems 05:25 - How Identity Keeps You Stuck 08:10 - The Danger of Fighting Identity 12:04 - How to Use Bridge Identities 16:39 - 3-Part Framework for Lasting Change 18:38 - Leaving a 20-Year Medical Career 25:56 - Navigating the Grief of Change 34:03 - Why Shaming Yourself Always Fails 36:11 - Beliefs Before Habit Stacking 43:06 - Reframing Severe Self-Doubt 48:05 - Habits to Become Instantly Magnetic 1:00:35 - Three Truths & Defining Greatness T-Mobile 5G Home Internet. T-Mobile.com/HomeInternet #greatness #inspiration #motivation

SPEAKERS

  • Dr. Kim Foster

    guest

    Former family physician and identity-change coach/author who teaches frameworks for behavior change and personal transformation.

  • Lewis Howes

    host

    Podcast host and interviewer on The School of Greatness.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Lewis Howes, featuring Dr. Kim Foster and Lewis Howes, How to Shift Your Identity & Become Instantly Magnetic | Dr. Kim Foster explores identity, evidence, and bridge steps for lasting personal transformation Dr. Kim Foster argues that people often fail to change because their identities (“I’m not that kind of person”) override motivation and information.

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