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Lewis Howes"If You Want To CHANGE YOUR LIFE In 5 Seconds DO THIS!" | Mel Robbins & Lewis Howes
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Mel Robbins Explains How Counting Backward Five Seconds Beats Hesitation
- Mel Robbins describes the brain as having an autopilot mode that runs habits and a drive mode driven by the prefrontal cortex, and says counting 5-4-3-2-1 interrupts the first and switches on the second.
- She argues people can't control their feelings but can control their thoughts and actions, so waiting to feel motivated, ready or confident is a losing bet.
- Robbins recounts hitting bottom around 2009 with unemployment, a failed Fox show, an $800,000 restaurant loss and collections calls, then discovering the rule by accident after seeing a rocket-launch commercial.
- She credits the rule with letting her stop taking Zoloft, rebuild her career, and help listeners worldwide, including a veteran who used it to step back from a suicide attempt on a ferry.
- Lewis Howes and Robbins also discuss fulfillment versus achievement, deliberate practice, personal development, and Howes's upcoming book on masculinity.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasYou are not a worrier or procrastinator; you have habits of worrying and procrastinating.
Robbins says thinking patterns like self-doubt, overthinking and fear are repeated behaviors that run on autopilot, which means they can be interrupted and replaced.
You can't control feelings, but you can control thoughts and actions.
Robbins says fear, doubt and anxiety will keep showing up, so the skill is to interrupt them in the moment and choose what you think and do.
Waiting to feel motivated or ready is a losing bet.
She says 95% of decisions are made by how we feel in the moment, so people who wait for the feeling to change never act; change comes through action, one five-second decision at a time.
Hesitation is the moment of power.
Robbins says there is a five-second window between an instinct and your brain killing it, and counting backward is an action that interrupts the hesitation and engages the prefrontal cortex.
Confidence is a skill built through action, not a personality trait.
Robbins defines confidence as the willingness to try, and says it grows as you see yourself becoming someone who acts even when your voice is shaking.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesYou're not a procrastinator. You have a habit of procrastinating. Big difference.
— Mel Robbins
You cannot control how you feel. You cannot control what triggers you and the fact that you may rise up with anger, you may rise up with self-doubt, you may have anxiety fill your body, but you can always control what you think and how you behave.
— Mel Robbins
Confidence is the willingness to try. That's all that it is.
— Mel Robbins
Success is a failure without fulfillment.
— Lewis Howes
Hearing your truth and speaking it, no matter how your voice shakes.
— Mel Robbins
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Author and speaker known for “The 5 Second Rule” and a former public defender who has also worked as a media commentator (e.g., CNN analyst).
Lewis Howes
hostHost of The School of Greatness podcast and interviewer/author focused on personal development.
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