Why 90% of People Think They're Shy (And Why They're Wrong) | Vinh Giang

🔔 Subscribe for more great content: https://www.youtube.com/lewishowes ▶️ Recommended for you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=guLyqijPrkw What if the way you talk isn't your personality at all, just a set of habits you can change? Vinh Giang, the communication coach with more than 17 million followers and author of Before We Forget How to Connect, sat down with Lewis to explain why "I'm just not charismatic" is never permanent. At 14, after years of being bullied as the kid who couldn't speak English, he asked his parents to let him change his name from Quang to Vinh, the middle name of every one of his uncles, so he could break the mold everyone had put him in. He walks Lewis through the simple exercise he gives every student: record yourself talking for five minutes, then review it three ways (sound only, picture only, then the transcript) and pick one thing to fix from each. He also breaks down why confidence comes from how you look and sound before it ever shows up as a feeling, why you should practise new habits on strangers first, and his three-part story framework: Spark, Point, Link. One story stays with you: the uncle who carried Vinh on his back as a child, the man who got the whole family onto a boat out of Vietnam on a stormy night, and who had to leave the love of his life behind to do it. Vinh shares something his family still doesn't talk about, and what it taught him about the songs we're most afraid to sing. When this one ends, you'll want to hit record on yourself for five minutes, and then go tell someone a story you've been holding on to. Before We Forget How to Connect: Be Heard, Be Seen, and Communicate with Confidence https://www.amazon.com/Before-Forget-How-Connect-Communicate/dp/B0H1V33PFJ Vinh Giang on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askvinh/ Vinh Giang on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@askvinh Listen to this episode on the go! 🍎 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-school-of-greatness/id596047499 🟢 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/07GQhOZboEZOE1ysnFLipT?si=a03d916bade54d4f For more info about this episode, go to https://lewishowes.com/2002 💰 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book "Make Money Easy" today!https://lewishowes.com/moneyyou 📙 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book "The Greatness Mindset" today! https://lewishowes.com/gmyo 📤 sign up for my FREE newsletter https://lewishowes.com/greatnessdelivered Follow Lewis! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lewis Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lewishowes/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/LewisHowes 💻 Website: http://lewishowes.com/ 📲 For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Get More Greatness! Greatness Clips: https://www.youtube.com/@GreatnessClips Spanish: https://www.youtube.com/@LewisHowesEspañol Portuguese: https://www.youtube.com/@LewisHowesPortugues Lewis Howes Shorts: https://www.youtube.com/@lewishowesshorts 00:00 - Why charisma isn't a fixed personality trait 01:00 - How Vinh Giang reinvented his identity 03:42 - Your communication habits are not your personality 07:09 - The fastest way to become a better communicator 10:31 - The three-step exercise to improve your speaking 17:35 - Why how you speak matters as much as what you say 20:21 - How your voice makes people feel connected 24:00 - Building confidence when you don't believe in yourself 25:53 - The look, feel and sound framework for confidence 29:34 - Why you should practice speaking with strangers 32:28 - Vinh Giang reveals his biggest communication insecurity 36:53 - How to adapt your communication to any room 38:33 - The vulnerability behind authentic connection 47:57 - The painful family story Vinh struggled to share 54:29 - Why everyone has powerful stories worth telling 59:17 - The three-part framework for better storytelling 1:05:31 - How to overcome the fear of public speaking 1:08:57 - How to stop your voice from shaking 1:11:13 - The four pillars of human connection Introducing Hatch Sleep Clock, a different kind of sleep tracker. https://hatch.co/learn/hatch-sleep-clock #greatness #inspiration #motivation