3 Surprising Reasons Why You Have No Childhood Memories ft. Dr. Nicole LePera | Mel Robbins Podcast

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you will learn how to deepen your #healing by understanding how your parents may have created silent trauma that is still impacting you as an adult. Meet Dr. Nicole LePera, a renowned psychologist and #1 New York Times bestselling author, who you may know as @TheHolisticPsychologist. Today, we are digging into #parenting styles and how your childhood experiences (whether you remember them or not) are still impacting the way you respond to stress as an adult. The research and tools in this conversation will help you understand not only why it’s so easy to get triggered- but also how to deepen your healing journey now that you do. Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 05:18 Why so many of us feel stuck, according to Dr. Nicole LaPera 11:33 What those feelings of being on “autopilot” really mean. 14:01 The definition of Emotional Immaturity and what it really means. 24:45 Mel’s personal story around emotional immaturity. 30:29 The reality of survival mode and the emotional impact it has generationally. 39:09 What’s an emotionally immature parent and how do you know if you had one? 46:35 Childhood amnesia – What the heck is that? 47:36 Here are 3 reasons why you don’t have many childhood memories. 48:53 Do you need to remember your past trauma to recognize it in yourself? 53:35 What you need to know about healing and processing emotion. 54:55 What do psychologists mean by “dysregulated nervous system?” 1:11:55 Is trauma only for those who’ve lived through a big, horrific event? 1:20:56 Why childhood trauma does not come back as a feeling but it comes back with a reaction. 1:26:34 What does it look like in real life when you start to heal your nervous system. 1:29:57 Here is why the silent treatment can be harmful. 1:35:19 The definition of transactional love. 1:43:44 Here’s your first tactical step toward healing your body and mind. 1:50:30 Feeling cynical about your own healing process? You need to hear this. More episode information: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-35 #childhoodtrauma #healingtrauma — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Dr. Nicole LePeraguestMel Robbinshost

Jan 26, 20231h 56mWatch on YouTube ↗

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Released: January 26, 2023
Duration: 1h 56m
Channel: The Mel Robbins Podcast
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Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you will learn how to deepen your #healing by understanding how your parents may have created silent trauma that is still impacting you as an adult. Meet Dr. Nicole LePera, a renowned psychologist and #1 New York Times bestselling author, who you may know as @TheHolisticPsychologist. Today, we are digging into #parenting styles and how your childhood experiences (whether you remember them or not) are still impacting the way you respond to stress as an adult. The research and tools in this conversation will help you understand not only why it’s so easy to get triggered- but also how to deepen your healing journey now that you do. Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 05:18 Why so many of us feel stuck, according to Dr. Nicole LaPera 11:33 What those feelings of being on “autopilot” really mean. 14:01 The definition of Emotional Immaturity and what it really means. 24:45 Mel’s personal story around emotional immaturity. 30:29 The reality of survival mode and the emotional impact it has generationally. 39:09 What’s an emotionally immature parent and how do you know if you had one? 46:35 Childhood amnesia – What the heck is that? 47:36 Here are 3 reasons why you don’t have many childhood memories. 48:53 Do you need to remember your past trauma to recognize it in yourself? 53:35 What you need to know about healing and processing emotion. 54:55 What do psychologists mean by “dysregulated nervous system?” 1:11:55 Is trauma only for those who’ve lived through a big, horrific event? 1:20:56 Why childhood trauma does not come back as a feeling but it comes back with a reaction. 1:26:34 What does it look like in real life when you start to heal your nervous system. 1:29:57 Here is why the silent treatment can be harmful. 1:35:19 The definition of transactional love. 1:43:44 Here’s your first tactical step toward healing your body and mind. 1:50:30 Feeling cynical about your own healing process? You need to hear this. More episode information: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-35 #childhoodtrauma #healingtrauma — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Dr. Nicole LePera and Mel Robbins, 3 Surprising Reasons Why You Have No Childhood Memories ft. Dr. Nicole LePera | Mel Robbins Podcast explores unlocking Childhood Trauma: Why Adult You Feels Numb And Stuck Mel Robbins and Dr. Nicole LePera explore how emotionally immature parenting, chronic childhood stress, and nervous system dysregulation shape adult disconnection, numbness, and the feeling of being a "child in an adult body."

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