3 Things You Need to Accept About Other People | The Mel Robbins Podcast

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Released

December 12, 2022

Duration

59m

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The Mel Robbins Podcast

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Today you and I are digging into three things you must accept about other people. It took me years to understand these truths. It sounds horrible, but I always wondered, “What’s wrong with people? Why don’t they change?” I know you can relate. Because today I’m taking your questions about trying to change other people. You’re frustrated by the fact that your spouse or partner won’t #exercise more. You get angry seeing how much money your daughter wastes going out every weekend. You’re annoyed by how stubborn your #parents have become the older they get. Me too. I’ve tried every tactic you can imagine to get other people to change. And recently I realized the true source of my #frustration: It’s not them, it’s me. I’m refusing to accept three things. These things are hard to accept, and they’re true. Once you hear them and you apply them to your life, your #relationships will be way easier. In addition to the three truths about other people, you’ll learn #research that explains why it’s so hard to get other people to change. And like all episodes, this one is packed with tactical advice and #takeaways that you can put to use immediately. And, if you’re the one who’s busy making changes but your loved ones are not being supportive, I answer that question from a listener, too. I feel compelled to answer your questions because so many of you are improving your life with the tools you’re learning on this podcast and your family is starting to get annoyed with you. That’s okay. It shows you’re making progress (but it doesn’t make it easy). Hopefully today’s episode will. Xo Mel In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 3 powerful truths you have to accept about people.
• How do you deal with people who don’t want to change?
• Why some people can’t change.
• My “6-month rule” for any complainer
• What do when the people around you don’t support the changes you’re making
• The science of “Myside bias” and what it says about human nature

For full show notes, go to https://www.melrobbins.com/podcast. In this episode: 00:00 Intro 04:35 The 3 things you need to accept about other people 06:08 If they wanted to they would also applies to you 09:30 How to word “should” holds judgment 17:17 What happens when you want to do better, but you just can’t 20:46 You can’t make someone else change 25:07 You can’t be mad at someone for being not who YOU want them to be 27:25 The 6 month rule - how to draw boundaries with wallowers 33:59 What do when the people around you don’t support the changes you make 36:37 When you try to change someone you aren’t loving someone, you are judging them 41:07 Energy shifts and patterns change 43:47 Your changes do not inspire other people, they confront them 48:48 Research: The problem with my side bias 53:49 Loving someone is loving where they are, and where they aren’t — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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• Mel Robbins

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• Lisa

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  other

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🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Lisa, 3 Things You Need to Accept About Other People | The Mel Robbins Podcast explores transform Relationships By Accepting Three Hard Truths About People Mel Robbins explains three core truths about other people: if they wanted to, they would; you cannot make someone else change; and you must stop being angry that people aren’t who you want them to be. Through listener questions, personal stories, and research, she shows how these truths reduce frustration, increase compassion, and shift focus back to your own behavior and boundaries. She differentiates between people who won’t change and those who currently can’t, emphasizing empathy, trauma awareness, and individual capacity. Robbins also introduces practical tools like the “six‑month rule” for complainers and illustrates how your growth often confronts, rather than inspires, others due to psychological biases.

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