4 Surprising Secrets of Successful Relationships (What I Learned From a Fight with My Daughter)

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

November 23, 2023

Duration

44m

Channel

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Ready to level up your life!? 🔥 https://bit.ly/2024_launch 👈 Join my 6-month coaching program, Launch with Mel Robbins. You. Me. Six months. That’s all you need to create a life you LOVE. Let’s go! 🚀 — How do you have a “healthy” fight with your family? How do you repair a relationship with someone you love? Today Mel is joined by her husband Chris, their daughter Kendall, and their son Oakley to answer listener questions about all kinds of relationships. This is the perfect episode to listen to with your family. You’ll hear the Robbins’ insightful, powerful, fun, and sometimes hilarious advice on how to get along with and love everyone in your family. Hear Mel unpack the 4 important lessons she learned from a silly fight she had that morning with her daughter, Kendall (note: there is some cursing). In this conversation, Mel, Chris, Oakley, and Kendall discuss: The 4 important life lessons Mel learned from her fight with Kendall How to use the Let Them Theory to diffuse fights with family A smart relationship “trick” from a therapist that Mel and Chris love Mel’s funny story of how she ran into Reese Witherspoon How to repair a damaged relationship with your child When and how to apologize to your family What to do when someone you love is always angry at you The real reason you treat your family worse than you treat strangers What happens after high school that strengthens most parent-kid relationships? What happened when guilt made Kendall do something she didn’t want to? What to do when your kids don’t talk to you The reason family members start a fight The right moment to bite your tongue in an argument The one thing that will stop you from “advice vomiting” on your kids The one thing that helps when you feel left out of your friend group (or when you just miss your friends) What you need to know that will help you feel more confident after a move to a new home or school What happens the moment you meet your idol (it’s not what you think.) Follow the podcast: The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast/ I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Intro 02:24 Mel met her idol, and here’s how it went. 10:46 How you can repair a relationship where you messed up. 12:32 The reason we sometimes treat our family the worst. 14:10 The 2 things you should tell your upset or annoyed kids. 15:27 The importance of a parental apology. 16:07 How Kendalls perspective on family has changed with age and space. 17:13 The things Mel and Chris did that Kendall hated in high school 19:14: Let’s unpack the fight Mel and Kendall had this morning. 21:23 Ever try to make a workout class hungover? 25:48 Never let guilt make you do something you don’t want to do. 27:08 The 4 lessons Mel learned from her fight with Kendall. 29:16 What to do when your old patterns shine through in a conflict. 31:02 Remember the let them theory? This is how Mel uses it in family conflict. 35:36 The importance of expressing your needs without being prompted. 37:55 How to support a child who is the “new kid” at school. 40:55 The 3 small things you can start doing today to make new friends. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Mel Robbins

  host

• Kendall Robbins

  guest

• Chris Robbins

  guest

• Oakley Robbins

  guest

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Kendall Robbins, 4 Surprising Secrets of Successful Relationships (What I Learned From a Fight with My Daughter) explores messy Fights, Real Love: Mel Robbins’ Family Reveals Relationship Secrets Mel Robbins hosts a candid, funny, and emotional episode with her husband Chris and children Kendall and Oakley, using real family conflicts to unpack what makes relationships work. They answer listener questions about distant teens and lonely freshmen, while dissecting a fresh mother–daughter blowup that happened that very morning. Through their stories, they highlight the power of apologies, giving others emotional space, not weaponizing generosity, and normalizing that change and disconnection are part of family life. The episode closes by encouraging listeners to meet family members with grace, recognizing that everyone is struggling with something beneath the surface.

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