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Don’t Argue or Fight With a Narcissist… Do This Instead (#1 Narcissism Expert)

Do you want to know how to deal with difficult people? What about if that difficult person in your life is a parent, boss, ex, child, or partner?

Mel RobbinshostDr. Ramani Durvasulaguest
May 18, 20241h 29mWatch on YouTube ↗

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EPISODE INFO

Released
May 18, 2024
Duration
1h 29m
Channel
The Mel Robbins Podcast
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Do you want to know how to deal with difficult people? What about if that difficult person in your life is a parent, boss, ex, child, or partner? Today, renowned psychologist and narcissism expert Dr. Ramani Durvasula is here to give you the tricks you need to master to live a more peaceful life. This episode is your masterclass on how to identify and heal from toxic people. Dr. Ramani will teach you how to not only deal with people who are disrespectful, passive aggressive, and can’t control their emotions, but also how to heal from the damage that they can cause you. She will show you how you can stay in your power and purpose no matter who you have to deal with in your life. You’ll learn how you can keep your goals, priorities, and happiness front and center, no matter what is happening around you. Dr. Ramani's website: https://doctor-ramani.com Follow Dr. Ramani on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani For more resources, including links to Dr. Ramani’s book, website, and social media platforms, click here for the podcast episode page: www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-174 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast 00:02:48: You know that difficult person in your life; let’s talk about it. 00:04:19: How to set healthy boundaries with the people in your life. 00:05:57: Are narcissists born or are they made? 00:09:04: This conversation on narcissism is unlike anything you have ever heard. 00:11:37: Do not make this one mistake in your relationships. 00:12:55: If you are in a toxic relationship, I want you to hear this. 00:13:40: What narcissist supply is and how to avoid filling it. 00:14:42: Do you feel the need to impress your parents, even as an adult? 00:16:32: Stop trying to change the difficult people in your life. 00:20:04: Why radical acceptance is your first step towards healing. 00:21:17: Your biggest barrier to healing is this (it’s not what you think). 00:25:07: Why do people stay in unhealthy, toxic relationships? 00:26:37: We need to normalize grief in these specific situations. 00:28:28: Is “closure” really the thing that we need when we end a relationship? 00:32:49: Dr. Ramani wants you to avoid this one type of relationship. 00:34:40: The surprising function of rumination. 00:38:07: What it looks like to be a survivor of narcissistic abuse. 00:41:36: Watch out for the patterns in narcissistic relationships. 00:46:50: What the “ick list” is and how it can help you overcome narcissistic abuse. 00:48:49: Anybody can change; a narcissistic person won’t. 00:51:34: What the 12-month cleanse is and why it is essential for healing. 00:56:07: What if you cannot cut the narcissistic person out of your life? 1:02:15: How to identify if you were a scapegoat for your parents. 1:04:35: Are you a truth-teller or a truth-seer? 1:11:55: How to handle co-parenting with a narcissist? 1:20:37: How you can forgive yourself for being in an unhealthy relationship — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah #lifeadvice #selfdevelopment #habits

SPEAKERS

  • Mel Robbins

    host
  • Dr. Ramani Durvasula

    guest

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Don’t Argue or Fight With a Narcissist… Do This Instead (#1 Narcissism Expert) explores Stop Hoping Narcissists Change: Radical Acceptance To Heal Yourself Mel Robbins interviews clinical psychologist and narcissism expert Dr. Ramani Durvasula on what to do after you realize you’re dealing with a narcissist, especially when it’s a parent, partner, or co‑parent you can’t easily avoid.

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