Focus on Yourself: 3 Signs You’re Giving Too Much & What to Do About It Right Now

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

October 17, 2024

Duration

1h 12m

Channel

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — When was the last time you said "no" without feeling guilty? Or set a boundary and actually stuck to it? If you can’t remember, today’s episode is the wake-up call you need. Boundaries can protect your time, energy, and mental space, and yet for so many of us, boundaries are hard to make and almost impossible to keep. Renowned psychiatrist Dr. Pooja Lakshmin is sharing the 3 surprising signs that you lack boundaries and how to take control to reclaim your life. By the end of this conversation, you're not only going to know how to set them, you're going to realize that any single time you feel overwhelmed or overextended, you need to take her 3 simple yet powerful steps to taking your power back. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-223 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 0:00 Introduction 4:45 The truth about self-care: it’s not just a routine, it’s a total mindset shift 6:45 According to a psychiatrist, this is what self-care is and the piece you are missing 15:48 Boundaries vs. reactions: how to learn to respond instead of react 19:03 Are your boundaries strong enough? Ask yourself these 5 questions to find out 24:29 3 warning signs you’re in need of a self-care overhaul 29:10 Your step-by-step guide for setting strong boundaries, starting today 34:46 Why setting boundaries is the ultimate form of self-care (and how to do it right) 41:42 Do you feel guilt or shame when you say “no” to people? 52:51 Guilt vs. selflessness: how boundaries help you win the emotional tug-of-war — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@UCk2U-Oqn7RXf-ydPqfSxG5g Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Dr. Pooja Lakshmin

  guest

• Mel Robbins

  host

• Narrator

  other

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Dr. Pooja Lakshmin and Mel Robbins, Focus on Yourself: 3 Signs You’re Giving Too Much & What to Do About It Right Now explores redefining Self-Care: How Boundaries Turn Guilt Into Genuine Power Mel Robbins and psychiatrist Dr. Puja Lakshman dismantle the popular, surface-level idea of self-care as bubble baths and wellness products, and reframe it as an internal practice rooted in boundaries, compassion, values, and power. They explain that real self-care is not about doing more “things” but about how and why you do them, and the sense of agency you reclaim in the process.

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