How to Build Closer Friendships & Get Rid Of Loneliness

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

June 24, 2024

Duration

48m

Channel

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Why is adult friendship so hard? Today, Mel is finally having the conversation on how to find your people, have more fun, and create meaningful friendships as an adult. In this deeply relatable episode, you’ll learn the 5 lies that you tell yourself about friendship that are keeping you from having the best relationships of your life—and the truths you must know. If you’ve been feeling lonely, left out, or just like your friendships are not as strong as they used to be, you’ll feel empowered and encouraged by the time you finish listening. Mel is giving you her exact 3-step playbook for finding, making, and strengthening your relationships. This is an encore episode with new and exciting insights from Mel at the top of the episode, that is packed with tools, tips, and scripts to create more meaningful friendships. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-186 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. 00:00:00 Intro 00:01:18 Do you make this same mistake while scrolling through social media? 00:03:28 If you're doing this, you're sabotaging your friendships. 00:05:17 If you take away anything from this episode, let this be it. 00:08:26 The first lie you tell yourself that’s preventing true friendship. 00:10:34 We all do this, and it makes you feel like a loser. 00:12:55 You don’t need a lot of friends; you only need THIS type of friend. 00:17:38 This Ivy League research reveals why you hesitate reaching out to new friends. 00:19:53 You’ve been lying to yourself since childhood about this type of friendship. 00:23:05 Holding on to old friendships that no longer work? 00:26:42 If you’re a people pleaser, you need to start doing this instead. 00:31:46 Use this tool to become flexible in your friendships. 00:36:19 How many hours it takes to make a new friend, according to research. 00:44:12 Do this one thing every day to strengthen your friendships. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Mel Robbins

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• Guest

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🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Guest, How to Build Closer Friendships & Get Rid Of Loneliness explores stop Believing These Five Lies That Are Sabotaging Adult Friendships Mel Robbins unpacks why adult friendships feel so hard and lonely, especially in the age of social media, and identifies five core “lies” that keep people stuck and isolated. She explains how comparison, self-doubt, outdated ideas about “best friends forever,” people-pleasing, and “I’m too busy” thinking all prevent meaningful connection. Drawing on research and personal stories, she reframes friendship as flexible, seasonal, and built through deliberate effort. Robbins then offers three simple tools to start building closer friendships: a new friendship framework, a mindset shift backed by research, and small daily habits that make connection easier.

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