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The Mel Robbins PodcastHow to Create a New Version of Yourself: Let Go of Past Mistakes & Regret with Sarah Jakes Roberts
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At a glance
WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Transform Regret Into Power: Open Your Inner Cupboard Of Self
- Mel Robbins interviews Sarah Jakes Roberts about how to release shame, regret, and past mistakes in order to create a new, more powerful version of yourself.
- Sarah shares her journey from becoming a pregnant teen in a high-profile church family to finding faith, self-compassion, and purpose by fully owning every part of her story.
- They unpack practical frameworks like “opening the cupboard,” seeing your life as a full movie instead of one cringeworthy scene, and allowing your dreams to “live outside of you” through words and action.
- The conversation reframes power and confidence as flows of authenticity, humility, and resilience—and challenges listeners to stop self-punishment, claim their worth, and start making small, daring moves toward who they want to become.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasYou cannot heal while you are still punishing yourself.
Repeating harsh self-talk and replaying your worst moments keeps you stuck in them; intentional self-compassion is required to turn sitting with yourself into a healing practice instead of a daily sentencing.
Open your “cupboard” and use every ingredient of your life.
Instead of hiding your past (shame, mistakes, trauma, quirks) or trying to reinvent yourself with imaginary ingredients, accept what’s actually in your cupboard and build an authentic life using all of it.
View your life as a full movie, not a single cringey scene.
Regret softens when you look at the plot line—what you had, what you lacked, and how hurt or lonely you were—rather than judging yourself only by one frozen moment; given your circumstances, you likely did the best you could.
Let who you’re becoming live outside of you through words.
Speaking your evolving desires and identity out loud—to yourself and others—creates space in your inner world and your environment for that version of you to take shape, instead of keeping your dreams trapped inside.
Recognize that your existence is necessary and stop discounting yourself.
Most people underestimate their impact and “put themselves on discount,” taking their healing and thoughts lightly; seeing your breath and presence as high-value changes how you speak, think, show up, and influence your corner of the world.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesMost people underestimate how necessary their existence is in the world.
— Sarah Jakes Roberts
You can't want to heal and punish yourself at the same time.
— Sarah Jakes Roberts
I’m not trying to disconnect from who I was. I’m trying to bring all of who I am into the fullness of where I am.
— Sarah Jakes Roberts
You have to open your mouth and let it live outside of you.
— Mel Robbins (reflecting and amplifying Sarah Jakes Roberts’ idea)
Power is authenticity, resiliency, humility combined.
— Sarah Jakes Roberts
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