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How to Get Confident, Beat Your Insecurities, and Overcome Fear | The Mel Robbins Podcast

Ready to level up? ⬆️🚀 https://bit.ly/takecontrol2023 👈 Sign up for my FREE 3-part science-backed training, Take Control with Mel Robbins! It’s designed specifically to help you step back into excellence, take ACTION, and create the life you deserve 🌟 — In this episode, you’re going to learn about a study from Harvard that has changed my life. It's research about performance, #anxiety, and a simple reframing method that you can use to never let fear stop you again. This Harvard-backed technique is so cool because it leverages your body, chemistry, physiology, and neural pathways to your advantage. The #1 fear most people have is #publicspeaking, but this technique will help you with absolutely everything, whether it’s speaking up at work, giving an incredible presentation, not choking when you deliver the toast at your best friend’s wedding, performing better on tests, or even running better. Stop letting #fear hold you back. Use science not only to reframe your fears into excitement but to conquer them once and for all. And one more thing. My free, brand new, research-backed training called "Take Control with Mel Robbins" is live and waiting for you. Get 3 incredible video trainings plus a 21-page workbook, and all you have to do is sign up here: https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 04:42 I’m always asked how I got into public speaking. Here’s the story. 10:03 The question YOU need to ask when someone asks how much you charge. 13:06 One of THE best tools to calm your nerves is not meditation (for me), but this. 13:39 This is my favorite quote from Charlie Bird Parker. 15:56 The wardrobe failure that may have rivaled Janet Jackson’s. 20:14 I was so excited to meet this speaker and bestselling author from Venezuela. 25:02 Best journal starter question ever: Are you alive but not living? 26:09 Feeling like you never have time? You’re not going to believe this advice. 29:11 How does fear give you access to your more authentic life? 31:52 Fear might indicate danger OR it might indicate growth. Pay attention. 35:27 Feeling imposter syndrome? You’re not alone. Here’s what you need. 37:42 How do you get over your fear of public speaking? 47:39 Come on stage with me at the Dallas Convention Center. 52:34 When you do something that scares the pants off you, remember this. 53:28 Tool #3 is based on research from Harvard - here’s what you tell yourself. 54:36 You don’t feel butterflies when you’re nervous because you’re going to screw up. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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Apr 24, 202359mWatch on YouTube ↗

CHAPTERS

  1. 0:00 – 4:42

    Intro

  2. 4:42 – 10:03

    I’m always asked how I got into public speaking. Here’s the story.

  3. 10:03 – 13:06

    The question YOU need to ask when someone asks how much you charge.

  4. 13:06 – 13:39

    One of THE best tools to calm your nerves is not meditation (for me), but this.

  5. 13:39 – 15:56

    This is my favorite quote from Charlie Bird Parker.

  6. 15:56 – 20:14

    The wardrobe failure that may have rivaled Janet Jackson’s.

  7. 20:14 – 25:02

    I was so excited to meet this speaker and bestselling author from Venezuela.

  8. 25:02 – 26:09

    Best journal starter question ever: Are you alive but not living?

  9. 26:09 – 29:11

    Feeling like you never have time? You’re not going to believe this advice.

  10. 29:11 – 31:52

    How does fear give you access to your more authentic life?

  11. 31:52 – 35:27

    Fear might indicate danger OR it might indicate growth. Pay attention.

  12. 35:27 – 37:42

    Feeling imposter syndrome? You’re not alone. Here’s what you need.

  13. 37:42 – 47:39

    How do you get over your fear of public speaking?

  14. 47:39 – 52:34

    Come on stage with me at the Dallas Convention Center.

  15. 52:34 – 53:28

    When you do something that scares the pants off you, remember this.

  16. 53:28 – 54:36

    Tool #3 is based on research from Harvard - here’s what you tell yourself.

  17. 54:36 – 59:20

    You don’t feel butterflies when you’re nervous because you’re going to screw up.

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