How to Get What You Want Every Time: 3 Steps to Negotiate Anything With Anyone

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

May 22, 2025

Duration

1h 22m

Channel

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Right now, there’s something you want. Maybe you need help at home, more support from your partner, or it’s time to set a boundary at work. But you’re avoiding the conversation. Why? Because it feels hard. You don’t want conflict, you don’t want to upset anyone, and you just don’t know how to bring it up. That ends today. The greatest things in life are on the other side of hard conversations. And in this episode, you will learn the 3 simple steps to have any difficult conversation and get exactly what you want. Mel sits down with world renowned negotiation expert Kwame Christian, CEO of the American Negotiation Institute, to break down exactly how to approach the conversations you’ve been avoiding. Whether you want to negotiate a raise, ask your partner to step up, or finally tell your friend what’s bothering you, this episode is your crash course in how to advocate for yourself. Inside this episode, you’ll learn: -Why avoiding hard conversations is damaging your relationships (and your self-respect) -How to handle someone’s emotional reaction without losing your cool -The 3-step “Compassionate Curiosity” framework to navigate ANY conflict -Why it’s more important to be respected than liked (and how to make that shift) -How to negotiate at home, at work, and even with your landlord -How to stand up for yourself without starting a fight If you’ve been staying silent, stewing in resentment, or dreading confrontation, this episode will give you the confidence and skills to speak up and change your life. You deserve respect. This is your roadmap to get it. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-291/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Welcome 05:33 How to Communicate More Confidently 12:04 Stop Putting Everybody Else Above You 33:07 How to Stop Letting Your Emotions Run the Show 49:46 The 3-Step Framework for Any Difficult Conversation 55:28 How to Navigate Tough Conversations 01:10:50 How to Negotiate and Lower Your Rent 01:12:25 The Conversation That Changes Your Paycheck 01:15:23 Why You're Fighting About Laundry (and What to Do Instead) 01:19:46 After This Conversation, Your Life Gets Better — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Kwame Christian

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• Mel Robbins

  host

• Narrator

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🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Kwame Christian and Mel Robbins, How to Get What You Want Every Time: 3 Steps to Negotiate Anything With Anyone explores master Difficult Conversations: Three-Step Framework To Confidently Negotiate Anything Mel Robbins interviews negotiation expert Kwame Christian about how the best things in life are on the other side of difficult conversations, especially the one you first have with yourself.

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