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Today’s episode is a deeply honest conversation about what it takes to let go of mistakes, forgive yourself, leave your past in the past, and create a new version of you.
In this moving episode, Mel sits down with her friend Carl Lentz, a former megachurch pastor, who watched his life implode in real time.
Carl doesn’t dodge the truth: His actions shattered trust, cost him his career, and nearly destroyed his family.
But this is not a story about scandal.
It’s about what you do after the worst moment of your life.
It’s about the courage to face what you’ve done, to stop running, to forgive yourself — and to rebuild something stronger from the wreckage.
Carl doesn’t pretend to have it all figured out. What he offers is honesty without excuses, wisdom forged in pain, and a raw invitation to stop letting your past dictate your future.
If you’ve made mistakes, if you’re struggling to forgive someone, if you're trying to put the pieces back together, this conversation will meet you right where you are.
Because you are not your worst moment.
And your next chapter is still yours to write.
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In this episode:
00:00 Meet the Guest
05:31 This Conversation Is About Forgiveness
16:38 The True Cost of Living a Double Life
21:37 The Truth Behind the Infidelity
32:31 The Night Carl’s Life Imploded
46:53 What Real Self-Forgiveness Actually Looks Like
01:01:19 Encouragement to Keep Growing
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