The Mel Robbins PodcastStart Putting Yourself First: Tools to Say No Without Guilt or Drama | The Mel Robbins Podcast
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EPISODE INFO
- Released
- February 27, 2023
- Duration
- 55m
- Channel
- The Mel Robbins Podcast
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION
Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you are going to learn how to put yourself first. Being a #peoplepleaser is a coping mechanism and it is destroying your energy, your time, your #dreams, and your sanity. Every time you say yes to something you don’t really want to do, you’re saying no to yourself. Today, we’re changing that in a surprising way. Learn the science-backed tools you need to break the habit of always putting other people’s needs before your own. Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 02:23 What the heck IS people-pleasing anyway? 06:07 I bet you can relate to Janet who learned this message as a kid. 07:12 Let’s just get the bad news about guilt out of the way. 08:38 Because here is some good news about guilt! 11:03 What does a pool table have to do with people-pleasing? 16:38 I still cringe when I think of this phone call with my father. 26:35 What happens when your friends don’t like the “new you”? 27:52 At the heart of people-pleasing is this. 28:38 This research explains why we avoid discomfort. 30:23 Think people-pleasing is about others? Think again. 32:28 The surprising advice for how to handle disappointment from others. 34:30 What if your lifestyle is now different from your friends? 39:06 Please stop looking here for validation as you change your life. 42:51 Do this to start figuring out who you really are. 45:46 Do this next time you’re asked to do something you don’t want to do. 47:20 Here’s how my friend Amy reacted when I had to bail on her at dinner in Vegas. 52:39 This is what happens every time you start to say no. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah
SPEAKERS
Mel Robbins
hostJanet
guestCourtney
guestAnna
guestNella
guestAmy
guest
EPISODE SUMMARY
In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Janet, Start Putting Yourself First: Tools to Say No Without Guilt or Drama | The Mel Robbins Podcast explores stop People Pleasing: How To Tolerate Guilt And Put Yourself First Mel Robbins unpacks people pleasing as a universal coping mechanism, not a diagnosis, and explains why you will never eliminate it—but must learn to balance others’ needs with your own.
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