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The Mel Robbins PodcastThe Most Important Career Advice You’ll Ever Hear With Harvard Business School’s #1 Professor
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Harvard professor reveals conversation secrets to skyrocket your career success
- Mel Robbins interviews Harvard Business School professor Alison Wood Brooks about the science of conversation, negotiation, and how these skills drive promotions, pay raises, and job offers.
- Brooks explains that great negotiators and leaders are not the loudest or most forceful, but the best communicators—people who understand others’ needs and consistently add value.
- They break down practical strategies for asking for raises, negotiating schedules, networking, and interviewing, all rooted in curiosity, affirmation, and co-creating solutions rather than trying to “win.”
- Brooks also shares her well-known research on reframing anxiety as excitement to perform better in high-stakes conversations, presentations, and interviews.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasBecome irreplaceable by understanding what others actually value.
Before asking for a raise, promotion, or better shifts, talk to your boss (or stakeholders) about what they most value, what problems they need solved, and what makes someone in your role indispensable—then align your behavior and contributions to those needs.
Lead with a learning mindset, not a persuasive monologue.
Going into negotiations “righteous and resolute” with a rehearsed case often backfires; instead, ask questions, gather feedback, and frame the conversation as solving a problem together, which paradoxically makes you more persuasive.
Systematically track and share your contributions.
Keep a running log of what you accomplish, then regularly summarize it for your manager (for example, a weekly email listing what you did, what’s next, and asking if priorities should shift) so your value is visible rather than assumed.
Network by being sincerely curious and helpful, not impressive.
Whether cold outreach or casual encounters, focus on asking what people work on, what they’re struggling with, and what they’re missing; look for ways you (or your contacts) could help, and follow up with brief, affirming messages that reference your conversation.
Answer “Tell me about yourself” with a clear, prepared structure.
Use a simple frame like, “I’ll share two things about my professional background and two things about my personal life,” then choose stories that highlight why you’re a strong fit for the role and who you are as a person.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesThe people who thrive at work are good at conversation.
— Alison Wood Brooks
The way to be persuasive is to go in with a learning mindset.
— Alison Wood Brooks
What makes you irreplaceable?
— Mel Robbins (echoing Alison Wood Brooks’s core question)
Feeling anxious means you care.
— Alison Wood Brooks
Don’t aim to prove how great you are. Aim for connection.
— Alison Wood Brooks
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