The Most Important Sex Advice No One Ever Told You: Revamp Your Sex Life in 10 Minutes

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

June 13, 2024

Duration

1h 18m

Channel

The Mel Robbins Podcast

Watch on YouTube

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Do you want to have better sex? Or even know how often you should be having sex – according to research? Today, Dr. Rena Malik, MD is in the house to answer all of your uncomfortable sex questions. Dr. Malik is an absolute powerhouse who is known for her viral, no-shame, straight-to-the-point advice on how to have the best sex of your life. She is a top urologist, pelvic surgeon, and sexual health expert – and she’s here today giving you the truth, based on medical research, on things like G-spots, orgasms, libido, and even erectile dysfunction. You’ll also learn the single biggest thing that you are getting wrong in your sex life, according to one of the top urologists in the country. Dr. Malik is an assistant professor at the University of Maryland School of Medicine and the Director of Female Pelvic Medicine & Reconstructive Surgery. She is also a researcher who has published over 100 peer-reviewed research articles, multiple review articles, and book chapters. You're going to want to share this conversation and all the juicy details with every one of your friends, and most importantly, your significant other. Great sex starts today. Dr. Rena’s website: https://renamalikmd.com/ For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-183 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. 00:00 Introduction 00:02:57: What is sexual health? 00:04:27: The biggest thing that we get wrong about our bodies when it comes to sex. 00:06:40: How to have better sex starting today. 00:08:09: The average person has THIS much sex a year. 00:11:01: How long should sex really last? 00:13:25: Here’s why foreplay is so important. 00:17:12: Grab a mirror and look at your own genitals, here’s why. 00:20:50: Is the g-spot in women real? 00:23:48: THIS percent of women are not able to have an orgasm. 00:26:05: Do this one thing to increase your chances of having an orgasm. 00:28:56: Squirting vs. Ejaculation: What’s the difference? 00:32:54: Can women actually squirt? 00:37:46: Should pain ever be normal during sex? 00:42:19: How to address what’s NOT working for you in the bedroom. 00:45:19: How to initiate sex and be in the moment. 00:49:10: When testosterone (the hormone of desire) is the highest for men and women. 00:51:21: The truth about whether or not the penis shrinks with age. 00:54:47: Reasons people feel shame around sex. 00:57:06: Porn and its effect on sexual expectations between partners. 00:58:21: How your mental health impacts your sex life. 01:01:31: How to reclaim your sexual health after experiencing trauma. 01:04:38: Masturbation techniques that can negatively affect men’s sex life. 01:11:58: Three ways to boost testosterone. 01:15:32: If you take one thing away from this, let it be this. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Mel Robbins

  host

• Dr. Rena Malik

  guest

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Dr. Rena Malik, The Most Important Sex Advice No One Ever Told You: Revamp Your Sex Life in 10 Minutes explores redefining Sex as Play: Science-Backed Secrets To Better Pleasure Mel Robbins interviews urologist and sexual health expert Dr. Rena Malik about what truly defines healthy sexual function and pleasure. They dismantle media myths about sex, explain the actual anatomy and physiology of arousal and orgasm, and normalize wide variation in frequency, duration, and style of sex. The conversation covers communication, shame, aging, hormones, mental health, and erectile issues for men, emphasizing that sexual health is inseparable from overall health. Listeners are urged to see sex as play, advocate for their own pleasure, and seek medical help when something feels wrong.

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