The Only Dating Advice You'll Ever Need

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

December 9, 2024

Duration

1h 20m

Channel

The Mel Robbins Podcast

Watch on YouTube

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Today, you are getting the best dating advice out there for both you and your loved ones. Mel sits down with Logan Ury – a behavior scientist, dating expert, host of Netflix’s new dating series “The Later Daters,” and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge – to get her science-backed insights on finding success in dating. If dating apps make you feel hopeless, if you feel like dating is broken, or can’t seem to find “the one,” Logan’s insights will change your approach to finding love forever. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or supporting a loved one navigating the dating scene, this episode is packed with science-backed insights and actionable tools to help anyone find the love they deserve. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-241 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 0:00 Introduction 5:39 What the biggest misconception around dating is 10:37 If you have dating burnout you’re not alone, here’s how to recharge 21:38 Are your dating app filters keeping you from finding the best match? 28:25 How to reclaim control of your dating journey and create the love life you want 35:17 Date like a scientist: How to connect with different people 38:40 Stop looking for the “spark” and go after the slow burn 42:58 The 3 toxic patterns keeping you single and how to overcome them 51:09 Top dating profile tips from Hinge’s Director of Relationship Science 53:53 How to tell the difference between a pet peeve and a true dealbreaker 55:04 Feeling swiped out? Here are the best tips to meet people in real life 59:16 Nail your first date with this simple step-by-step guide 1:07:28 Tips for anyone struggling with dating, whether in your 20s or 50s 1:10:54 You are NOT undateable: how to turn insecurities into strengths 1:16:22 You’re holding yourself back from the dating life you deserve, here’s why — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@UCk2U-Oqn7RXf-ydPqfSxG5g Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Logan Ury

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• Mel Robbins

  host

• Narrator

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🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Logan Ury and Mel Robbins, The Only Dating Advice You'll Ever Need explores stop Chasing Sparks: Build Better Relationships With Smarter Dating Habits Mel Robbins interviews behavioral scientist and dating expert Logan Ury about why modern dating feels so hard and what people are actually doing wrong. Ury explains that dating is a learnable skill, separate from our innate ability to love, and that many struggles come from unrealistic expectations, poor app habits, and fear of rejection. They dismantle myths about “the spark” and soulmates, show how app filters and checklist thinking quietly sabotage matches, and introduce three self-sabotaging dating tendencies: romanticizer, maximizer, and hesitater. The episode offers concrete, research-backed tactics for online profiles, first dates, meeting people offline, and dating at midlife, all focused on taking back control instead of blaming apps or “the market.”

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