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The Truth About Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go With Jay Shetty | Mel Robbins Podcast

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you and I are getting a #masterclass on the topic of #love. And it’s not what you think. This is not an episode about #relationships - it is an episode about YOUR relationship to love and how you can let more love into your life. If you have felt alone or feel like your relationships are on #autopilot - this episode is a real gift. @jayshetty2758 is someone I really love. He’s the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Think Like a Monk, and his latest book is Love Rules. His sage counsel on life is sought after by celebrities, world leaders, professional athletes and the most successful artists in the world. Watch this episode as a family. Watch with your friends. Watch with your partner.. Watch by yourself. Love is what we need. And hearing two dear friends go deep on the topic will make your heart swell. Xo Mel In this episode, you’ll learn: 00:00 Intro 10:44 Hear Jay’s 3-part definition of love I’d never heard that is so spot on. 11:46 According to research, this is how many hours you need to spend to make a casual friend, a good friend, and a great friend. 14:39 Are you doing this with your partner? Jay says that’s not love. 16:36 Okay wow, here’s where I realize I’m not doing something for my husband, Chris, that I should be doing. 19:11 If your relationship is new, be careful you don’t do this. 21:29 Why do we chase relationships in order to feel worthy? 22:44 Rule #1 for finding love. 27:35 What research shows will happen if you enter a relationship simply because you’re afraid of being alone. 26:57 Hear Jay in a rare moment where he talks about his childhood trauma. 35:24 Here’s why you keep dating the same kind of person over and over. 37:08 One simple exercise you can do today to start building a healthy relationship. 37:48 Jay leads us through a powerful meditation. 44:20 There are four phases of love: hear them unpacked and explained. 47:37 Dating someone new? Then you need to know about both the “halo effect” and the “context effect.” 50:36 Jay’s best piece of advice if you want that new relationship to last. 54:19 Here’s Jay’s Rule #4 of love and why it’s my favorite. 59:04 Is someone caring for you or controlling you? Here’s how to tell. 1:03:50 What you might be doing in your relationship that’s hurting it. 1:05:26 Here’s what I disagreed with Jay about. 1:06:49 What is the purpose of love in your life? Jay answers. More about #JayShetty: - Jay's new book, 8 Rules of Love is now available for purchase at https://8rulesoflove.com/ and wherever books are sold. - To catch Jay on his first ever global tour 'Love Rules', go to https://jayshettytour.com/ for tickets. - Follow Jay on Instagram (I personally never miss a post.): https://www.instagram.com/jayshetty/ - Jay’s website: https://jayshetty.me/ - Follow Jay on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayShettyIW/ - Follow Jay on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jayshetty?lang=en - Get Jay’s first book, the #1 New York Times bestseller Think Like a Monk: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1982134488/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1982134488&linkCode=as2&tag=genius022-20&linkId=6ca4cc38475c6b64e80289ceaa553345 - Subscribe to Jay’s podcast On Purpose: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/on-purpose-with-jay-shetty/id1450994021 — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Mel RobbinshostJay Shettyguest
Feb 2, 20231h 11mWatch on YouTube ↗

CHAPTERS

  1. 0:00 – 10:44

    Intro

  2. 10:44 – 11:46

    Hear Jay’s 3-part definition of love I’d never heard that is so spot on.

  3. 11:46 – 14:39

    According to research, this is how many hours you need to spend to make a casual friend, a good friend, and a great friend.

  4. 14:39 – 16:36

    Are you doing this with your partner? Jay says that’s not love.

  5. 16:36 – 19:11

    Okay wow, here’s where I realize I’m not doing something for my husband, Chris, that I should be doing.

  6. 19:11 – 21:29

    If your relationship is new, be careful you don’t do this.

  7. 21:29 – 22:44

    Why do we chase relationships in order to feel worthy?

  8. 22:44 – 26:57

    Rule #1 for finding love.

  9. 26:57 – 27:35

    Hear Jay in a rare moment where he talks about his childhood trauma.

  10. 27:35 – 35:24

    What research shows will happen if you enter a relationship simply because you’re afraid of being alone.

  11. 35:24 – 37:08

    Here’s why you keep dating the same kind of person over and over.

  12. 37:08 – 37:48

    One simple exercise you can do today to start building a healthy relationship.

  13. 37:48 – 44:20

    Jay leads us through a powerful meditation.

  14. 44:20 – 47:37

    There are four phases of love: hear them unpacked and explained.

  15. 47:37 – 50:36

    Dating someone new? Then you need to know about both the “halo effect” and the “context effect.”

  16. 50:36 – 54:19

    Jay’s best piece of advice if you want that new relationship to last.

  17. 54:19 – 59:04

    Here’s Jay’s Rule #4 of love and why it’s my favorite.

  18. 59:04 – 1:03:50

    Is someone caring for you or controlling you? Here’s how to tell.

  19. 1:03:50 – 1:05:26

    What you might be doing in your relationship that’s hurting it.

  20. 1:05:26 – 1:06:49

    Here’s what I disagreed with Jay about.

  21. 1:06:49 – 1:11:54

    What is the purpose of love in your life? Jay answers.

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