This Teen Cracked the Code on Anxiety and Teaches You How He Did It | Mel Robbins Podcast

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Released

November 6, 2023

Duration

52m

Channel

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Are you tired of feeling anxious? Want to know a simple way to boost your #confidence? Do you need better #boundaries with your family? Buckling under the pressure of college applications, a job search, or other big life decisions? Listeners from around the world have been writing in about these issues, asking specifically for both Mel’s advice and her 18-year-old son Oakley’s young adult perspective. This is a fantastic conversation to listen to as a family. It will give you amazing insight into issues you may be facing as well as eye-opening honesty about how the young adults in your life are thinking about these topics. In this conversation, Mel and Oakley discuss topics like:

• How to properly support someone you love with #anxiety
• When to know if it’s time to break up with someone
• If it’s possible to stay friends with an ex
• How to create boundaries with your family
• When you should be worried someone is spending too much time alone
• A really interesting take on gaming
• Handling the pressure of college applications, divorce, job search, or finding your purpose
• How to talk to your kid about alcohol: surprising boundaries you can use to protect the ones you love
• What to do to get someone talking when they are not talking to you
• Specific advice on building confidence as a young adult
• Mistakes divorcing parents make
• How to have a tough conversation with your parents
• Calming words for someone going through a hard time
• A short visualization exercise to calm anxiety
• A fun and free way to get closer to your #family
• A young adult perspective on hazing and bullying and why you should always get your parents involved

This podcast is presented for educational and entertainment purposes. I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Intro 01:32 This is why I love having my son, Oakley, on the podcast. 04:29 How to let go of the pressure when your life doesn’t go the way you want. 08:50 You get to set boundaries with family and friends. 12:18 What to do for your kids when you’re going through divorce. 14:38 How do you give your kids the space to be their own person? 18:24 How do you talk to your kids about alcohol? 24:03 When do you know it’s time to break up with someone? 26:00 Can you be friends with your ex? 27:02 How to support your siblings throughout your life. 30:26 How to handle your teen always being in their room. 35:35 Advice about boosting your confidence at any time in your life. 40:57 As a parent, do you step in when your college kid is being bullied? 44:52 What you need to know when you feel lost and alone. 46:32 How do you support someone with chronic anxiety? 47:30 Meditation strategies to use when you’re feeling anxious. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Mel Robbins

  host

• Oakley

  guest

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Oakley, This Teen Cracked the Code on Anxiety and Teaches You How He Did It | Mel Robbins Podcast explores teen Shares Practical Wisdom On Anxiety, Boundaries, And Growing Up Mel Robbins hosts her 18-year-old son Oakley for a wide-ranging conversation about modern teen life, focusing heavily on anxiety, stress, and relationships between parents and kids. Oakley shares how he approached the college process, built confidence after bullying and self-doubt, set boundaries with his parents, and navigates issues like alcohol, breakups, and gaming. Together they offer specific scripts and strategies for hard conversations—around divorce, favoritism, mental health, and teens isolating in their rooms. Oakley also teaches a simple grounding exercise using breath and an imagination-based ‘mentor table’ visualization to manage anxiety and feel less alone.

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