What it Takes to Find & Keep True Love: The Best Advice No One Ever Told You

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

February 16, 2026

Duration

58m

Channel

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you’re going to receive the best dating advice no one ever told you. Whether you’re single, dating, in a relationship, or listening because you’re looking for advice for someone you love - this episode will change how you think about dating and love. If you’re feeling discouraged, burned out, or you’re starting to wonder, “Am I ever going to find the right person?” or “Am I with the right person?” you’re not alone - and this episode is for you. Today, Mel sits down with Logan Ury, who is a Harvard-trained behavioral scientist, world-renowned researcher, dating expert, bestselling author of How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love, and one of the most trusted voices on modern dating and relationships. Logan is a fan-favorite and Mel has brought her back on the show for a brand new episode all about dating. Logan is going to give you the data, the psychology, and the tools you need to stop spiraling and start dating with confidence. Logan breaks down why dating feels so hard in today’s world - and how to stop repeating patterns that keep you stuck. She will also cover topics like rejection, attachment, and commitment. After today, you will know: -The 8 questions that instantly help you choose a better partner -What to text instead of ghosting - including a simple rejection text you can copy/paste -How to have the “What are we?” conversation without begging, negotiating, or abandoning yourself -How to break the anxious-avoidant loop that makes dating feel like chaos -What “the ick” really is - and how it keeps you single when you say you want love -How to stop dating burnout by dating more sustainably After this episode, you’ll know how to build deeper connections, find and keep true love, and show up as a better partner. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-370/ Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein: http://puregeniusprotein.com/MP Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Meet The Guest 06:19 Why Dating Feels so Toxic in Today's World 11:14 The Ideal Online Dating Profile: Photos + Prompts That Get Matches 13:53 What to Look For in a Life Partner: Ask These 8 Questions 21:04 Why The “Spark” Isn’t Everything + How to Spot Slow-Burn Love 23:20 How Attachment Style May Be Impacting Your Dating Life 26:22 Is It Possible to Meet Someone in Real Life? 29:18 What is a “Situationship”? 31:15 Don’t Date Potential, Date The Person 35:54 The ‘Single Friend’ Panic: Why Friendships Matter More Than Your Relationship Status 37:48 Stop Ghosting: The Simple Text to Send Instead 40:20 How to Have the “What Are We?” Talk 47:53 How to Date Without Burning Out: Quality Over Quantity — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Mel Robbins

  host

• Logan Ury

  guest

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Logan Ury, What it Takes to Find & Keep True Love: The Best Advice No One Ever Told You explores science-backed dating advice: shift mindsets, build skills, find love Logan Ury argues that modern dating feels “toxic” partly because people conflate the inherent difficulty of dating (risk, rejection, ambiguity) with the presence of apps, and she urges listeners to “date like a scientist” by testing assumptions and learning from outcomes.

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