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What To Do If You’re Having a BAD DAY And Don’t Feel Like YOURSELF | The Mel Robbins Podcast

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — You know those days when you just feel “off”? Well, last week, both my friend Amy and I were having bad days. Thankfully, I had just had an appointment with my amazing #therapist that morning. So, as Amy and I started to talk about why we didn’t “feel like ourselves,” I got this crazy idea that maybe we should invite YOU to join us as the conversation started to unfold. We decided to turn on a recording device and unpack how we were feeling – on the fly. I need to say: I stole everything you’re about to hear from my therapist Anne, and you should steal it too. This is way more than just learning how to put on a #happy face. These tools are truly transformational because they help you tap back into the incredible power within you. This is a very intimate and special episode that unfolds live. So I’m inviting you right now: pull up a seat at the kitchen table with Amy and me. Join us. Don’t just listen, but close your eyes and do the exercises with us. Do not miss out on what happens near the end. It is magical and I certainly did not see it coming. And I know you’re going to want to see the cowboy boots: don’t worry, they are in the show notes on my website here. Xo Mel In this episode you will learn: - Why you sometimes feel “off” even when nothing is wrong - Why anxiety hits even when you are riding a high - How to identify where #anxiety lives in your body - How your body senses your emotions - What temporal and seasonal triggers are - How I am replacing “repressing” with “individuating” and why that scares me - How #trauma as a child becomes triggers as an adult - Why we fall back on old habits that keep us feeling protected - What our 2 states of “being” are - How to not be scared of your “injured self” (and what that even means) - How specific memories can bring peace, presence, and connection - How to spot the creative, flow states in your life - How to allow yourself to received and be connected - How to notice where you grip onto old habits and patterns - Habits that help you reach a flow state In this episode: 00:00 Intro 03:19 I don’t know how to fix my bad mood and I don’t want to 07:38 Key Concept: Temporal and seasonal triggers 10:07 The therapy session I NEEDED with Anne Devin 10:54 Tool: Identifying where the anxiety lives in your body 16:08 Key Concept: Individuating instead of repressing 17:45 Processing trauma and ties to triggering memories 22:17 Falling back on old habits that have keeps you feeling protected 30:17 Key Concept: Our 2 states of “being” 34:48 Tool: Stop acting from your “injured self” 37:44 Key Concept: Cognitive behavioral theory of “The Rattle” 40:33 Tool: Find a specific memory that brings peace, presence, connection 43:57 Becoming completely connected to the divine 55:42 Tool: My protector image 58:26 Signs that strengthen the circuitry wired for flow state 1:00:48 You have to love yourself a little harder — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Mel RobbinshostAmyguestTherapist (Mel’s therapist, name not given)guestKendall Robbinsguest
Oct 24, 20221h 3mWatch on YouTube ↗

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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Mel Robbins Shares Tools To Navigate Bad Moods And Old Wounds

  1. Mel Robbins and her friend/colleague Amy unpack what to do when you wake up in a bad mood and don’t feel like yourself, even when nothing is ‘wrong’ on the surface.
  2. Mel shares a recent therapy breakthrough about the ‘divine self’ versus the ‘injured self’ and how seasons, old trauma, and life transitions can trigger sudden anxiety or sadness.
  3. They walk through concrete somatic and visualization exercises to locate difficult feelings in the body, connect them to younger parts of ourselves, and then rewire the brain by activating memories of peak, loving, ‘flow’ moments.
  4. The episode reframes bad days as signals from the injured self, offering tools to stay curious, self-compassionate, and to deliberately strengthen neural pathways for connection, joy, and presence.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Recognize bad moods as messages from your ‘injured self,’ not proof something is wrong with you today.

When you suddenly feel off, anxious, or sad, it often reflects old, stored emotional patterns being triggered (by seasons, transitions, or sensory cues), not a current-life catastrophe. Seeing it as a signal from a younger part of you softens shame and encourages curiosity instead of self-attack.

Use your body as a map: locate where the feeling lives physically.

Close your eyes and identify where the heaviness, tightness, or ‘oil slick’ of emotion sits (chest, ribs, neck, etc.), what it feels like, and even what material or shape it might have; this shifts you out of racing thoughts and into embodied awareness, which is where regulation starts.

Personify the feeling as a younger you and offer compassion.

Mel’s therapist has her imagine the sensation floating out in front of her, then taking the shape of her younger self at a specific age linked to pain. This makes it easier to feel empathy (‘I feel bad for that kid’) instead of judgment, and to see today’s mood as that child asking for care.

Interrupt dissociation and spiraling thoughts with self-reassurance and safe connection.

When you notice yourself ‘leaving your body’ and going into your head to scan for what’s wrong, put a hand on your heart, remind yourself out loud that you are safe and loved, and, if possible, ask for a grounding hug or presence from someone you trust; this calms the alarm before it becomes a story.

Actively ‘fire up’ memories of peak connection or flow to rewire your brain.

Recall a vivid moment when you felt awe, love, or effortless connection (with a child, partner, nature, creativity), locate where that good feeling lives in your body, and really let yourself feel it. Alternating between awareness of the painful spot and this peak state helps build new neural circuitry around safety and joy, not just around pain.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

When you say, ‘I don’t feel like myself,’ it’s often the injured you showing up, not the real you disappearing.

Mel Robbins

Most of us live in the injured self all day long and call it a personality.

Mel Robbins (paraphrasing her therapist’s insight)

I don’t know how to be in a bad mood and just let it go. How do I manage myself through this bad mood?

Amy

If you want to keep yourself in that divine state, you’ve got to love yourself a little harder.

Mel Robbins

Sometimes when you’re at that low, you’re looking around like, ‘Did this thing stop? Am I ever going back up again?’

Amy

Feeling ‘off,’ in a bad mood, or ‘below the line’ without a clear causeThe concept of the ‘injured self’ versus the ‘divine’ or highest selfHow past trauma, seasons, and transitions trigger old emotional patternsSomatic awareness: locating emotions and sensations in the bodyVisualization exercises to process pain and re-anchor in positive experiencesCoping mechanisms: dissociation, over-responsibility, self-blame, and numbingIntentionally cultivating flow states, peak experiences, and ‘signs’ of magic

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