How Do You Develop Real Confidence? - James Smith

James Smith is an author, podcaster, online trainer and not a life coach. Many people say that their number one personal development goal is to be more confident. But what if you don't have anything to be confident about? Is competence a required prerequisite to becoming confident or can you fake it until you make it? Expect to learn why most entrepreneurs are miserable, how leaving unasked questions can eat up your mental energy, the relationship between anxiety and confidence, how to deal with fear and failures, the heritability of confidence, whether women are actually more confident than men, the simplest way to build genuine confidence and much more... Sponsors: Get £150 discount on Eight Sleep products at https://eightsleep.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Get the Whoop 4.0 for free and get your first month for free at http://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Get over 37% discount on all products site-wide from MyProtein at https://bit.ly/proteinwisdom (use code: MODERNWISDOM) Extra Stuff: Buy How To Be Confident - https://amzn.to/3C0gBfe Check out James' Academy - https://www.jamessmithacademy.com/ Follow James on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jamessmithpt Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom #confidence #failure #motivation - 00:00 Intro 03:17 Are Healthy Foods a Form of Oppression? 11:17 New Things Learned about Confidence 17:12 The Power of Rejection Therapy 23:20 Does Fake It ‘Til You Make It Work? 34:40 The Matthew Principle 44:20 Relationship Between Confidence & Anxiety 55:10 Celebrating Wins Vs Maintaining Focus 1:03:50 Preparing for Fatherhood & Family 1:08:15 James’s Relationship with Alcohol 1:18:07 Imbalances in Self-Judgment 1:26:45 Bullying Chris into Writing a Book 1:37:00 Where to Find James - Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Listen to all episodes on audio: Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

James SmithguestChris Williamsonhost

Oct 6, 20221h 37mWatch on YouTube ↗

EPISODE INFO

Released: October 6, 2022
Duration: 1h 37m
Channel: Modern Wisdom
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

James Smith is an author, podcaster, online trainer and not a life coach. Many people say that their number one personal development goal is to be more confident. But what if you don't have anything to be confident about? Is competence a required prerequisite to becoming confident or can you fake it until you make it? Expect to learn why most entrepreneurs are miserable, how leaving unasked questions can eat up your mental energy, the relationship between anxiety and confidence, how to deal with fear and failures, the heritability of confidence, whether women are actually more confident than men, the simplest way to build genuine confidence and much more... Sponsors: Get £150 discount on Eight Sleep products at https://eightsleep.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Get the Whoop 4.0 for free and get your first month for free at http://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Get over 37% discount on all products site-wide from MyProtein at https://bit.ly/proteinwisdom (use code: MODERNWISDOM) Extra Stuff: Buy How To Be Confident - https://amzn.to/3C0gBfe Check out James' Academy - https://www.jamessmithacademy.com/ Follow James on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jamessmithpt Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom #confidence #failure #motivation - 00:00 Intro 03:17 Are Healthy Foods a Form of Oppression? 11:17 New Things Learned about Confidence 17:12 The Power of Rejection Therapy 23:20 Does Fake It ‘Til You Make It Work? 34:40 The Matthew Principle 44:20 Relationship Between Confidence & Anxiety 55:10 Celebrating Wins Vs Maintaining Focus 1:03:50 Preparing for Fatherhood & Family 1:08:15 James’s Relationship with Alcohol 1:18:07 Imbalances in Self-Judgment 1:26:45 Bullying Chris into Writing a Book 1:37:00 Where to Find James - Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Listen to all episodes on audio: Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

SPEAKERS

James Smith
guest
Chris Williamson
host

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Modern Wisdom, featuring James Smith and Chris Williamson, How Do You Develop Real Confidence? - James Smith explores james Smith Redefines Confidence: From Open Loops To Daily Action Chris Williamson and James Smith explore what real confidence is, arguing it’s less a personality trait and more a byproduct of repeated action, failure, and competence built over time. They introduce the idea that 'low confidence' often serves as a socially acceptable excuse for chronic inaction, leaving people with endless mental 'open loops' and lifelong regret. The conversation ranges from diet culture and ‘food neutrality’ to rejection therapy, jiu-jitsu, alcohol, caffeine, and the mating market, consistently returning to how small, repeated actions reshape identity and expectations. They also discuss the challenges of male development in the modern world and the importance of honest vulnerability from successful figures, including James’ own struggles with celebrating wins and Chris’ hesitation about writing a book.

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