Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People? - Crappy Childhood Fairy

Anna Runkle, also known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, is a trauma educator, Youtuber and an author. Why do some people fall so hard, so fast? It might not be love, but it could be limerence. So what exactly is limerence, what triggers it, and how do you handle it, whether you're experiencing it or the one receiving it? Expect to learn what limerence is and how it differs from infatuation or a crush, what the main emotions behind limerence is and what causes it, why some people get hardcore limerence and others don’t, if limerence is a type of mental illness or if it can be caused by just good sex, how modern media depictions of functional and dysfunctional relationships contribute to limerence, if limerence if more common in women or men, and much more… - 00:00 What Is The Meaning Of Limerence? 04:57 Does An Anxious Avoidant Relationship Entail Limerence? 07:21 The Main Emotions Of A Limerent Person 21:51 Is There An Imbalance Of Value In The Mind? 26:41 What Causes Limerence? 35:53 Example Of A Limerent Person And LO 39:38 Seeking Out The Right Relationship 44:35 Why Limerence Doesn't Affect Everyone 50:11 Managing Our Own Needs And Responsibility 58:19 Does Limerence Serve An Evolutionary Purpose? 1:01:16 Is Limerence An Addiction? 1:14:32 Does Limerence Effect One Gender More Than The Other? 1:18:50 How To Overcome Limerence 1:22:40 Where To Find Anna - Get up to $50 off the RP Hypertrophy App at https://rpstrength.com/modernwisdom Get 35% off your first subscription on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom - Download Anna Runkle's free guide, Signs of Limerence: https://bit.ly/4lRHWGv Click here to order Anna's books Re-Regulated https://hayhs.com/r_pp_hc_az and Connectability https://hayhs.com/c_pp_hc_az. Click here for Anna's YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/c/CrappyChildhoodFairy Website: https://crappychildhoodfairy.com - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

Chris WilliamsonhostAnna Runkleguest

May 1, 20251h 23mWatch on YouTube ↗

EPISODE INFO

Released: May 1, 2025
Duration: 1h 23m
Channel: Modern Wisdom
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Anna Runkle, also known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, is a trauma educator, Youtuber and an author. Why do some people fall so hard, so fast? It might not be love, but it could be limerence. So what exactly is limerence, what triggers it, and how do you handle it, whether you're experiencing it or the one receiving it? Expect to learn what limerence is and how it differs from infatuation or a crush, what the main emotions behind limerence is and what causes it, why some people get hardcore limerence and others don’t, if limerence is a type of mental illness or if it can be caused by just good sex, how modern media depictions of functional and dysfunctional relationships contribute to limerence, if limerence if more common in women or men, and much more… - 00:00 What Is The Meaning Of Limerence? 04:57 Does An Anxious Avoidant Relationship Entail Limerence? 07:21 The Main Emotions Of A Limerent Person 21:51 Is There An Imbalance Of Value In The Mind? 26:41 What Causes Limerence? 35:53 Example Of A Limerent Person And LO 39:38 Seeking Out The Right Relationship 44:35 Why Limerence Doesn't Affect Everyone 50:11 Managing Our Own Needs And Responsibility 58:19 Does Limerence Serve An Evolutionary Purpose? 1:01:16 Is Limerence An Addiction? 1:14:32 Does Limerence Effect One Gender More Than The Other? 1:18:50 How To Overcome Limerence 1:22:40 Where To Find Anna - Get up to $50 off the RP Hypertrophy App at https://rpstrength.com/modernwisdom Get 35% off your first subscription on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom - Download Anna Runkle's free guide, Signs of Limerence: https://bit.ly/4lRHWGv Click here to order Anna's books Re-Regulated https://hayhs.com/r_pp_hc_az and Connectability https://hayhs.com/c_pp_hc_az. Click here for Anna's YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/c/CrappyChildhoodFairy Website: https://crappychildhoodfairy.com - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

SPEAKERS

Chris Williamson
host
Anna Runkle
guest

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Modern Wisdom, featuring Chris Williamson and Anna Runkle, Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People? - Crappy Childhood Fairy explores limerence: Childhood Neglect, Fantasy Love, And Addiction To Hope The conversation explores limerence—a compulsive, addiction‑like romantic obsession—distinguishing it from normal early-stage love, infatuation, and codependency. Anna (Crappy Childhood Fairy) argues that limerence often stems from childhood emotional neglect and trauma, especially inconsistent or absent caregiving, which wires people to “find love where there is no love.”

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