The Truth About Women & Relationships - Neil Strauss, World's #1 Pickup Artist

Neil Strauss is a journalist, writer, and an author. Neil was the world's most famous pickup artist who kickstarted much of the modern dating discourse. So looking back 20 years later, what has he come to realise about what really matters in life and how to find love and connection? Expect to learn the trajectory of Neil’s views on relationships over the years, how Neil reflects on his book The Game, why Neil is having a baby with his ex-wife, what went wrong with the world of pickup, why faking status is not such a great idea, how to measure success in a relationship, how to rid yourself of other people’s expectations and much more... - 00:00 Neil’s Perspective on Relationships 03:25 Co-Parents But Not Partners 11:23 Letting Go of the Pickup Artist Identity 18:38 Our Current Mating Culture 23:10 Priorities of the Black Pill Community 31:32 The Current State of Men’s Mental Health 42:36 Can You ‘Game’ Love? 50:17 Advice to People Failing to Connect 58:45 Three Steps to Resolve Your Past 1:08:00 Asking Why Emotions Arise 1:19:05 Chris’s Therapy Experience 1:25:50 Explaining Enmeshment 1:31:54 How to Know Who You Really Are 1:40:02 Becoming More Self-Compassionate 1:46:33 What’s Next for Neil - AG1 - Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and more from AG1 at https://drinkag1.com/wisdom Shopify - Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period from Shopify at https://www.shopify.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout) Momentous - Get up to 32% discount on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout). Nomatic - Get 20% discount on Nomatic’s amazing luggage at https://nomatic.com/modernwisdom (use code MW20) Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

Chris WilliamsonhostNeil Straussguest

May 27, 20241h 48mWatch on YouTube ↗

EPISODE INFO

Released: May 27, 2024
Duration: 1h 48m
Channel: Modern Wisdom
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Neil Strauss is a journalist, writer, and an author. Neil was the world's most famous pickup artist who kickstarted much of the modern dating discourse. So looking back 20 years later, what has he come to realise about what really matters in life and how to find love and connection? Expect to learn the trajectory of Neil’s views on relationships over the years, how Neil reflects on his book The Game, why Neil is having a baby with his ex-wife, what went wrong with the world of pickup, why faking status is not such a great idea, how to measure success in a relationship, how to rid yourself of other people’s expectations and much more... - 00:00 Neil’s Perspective on Relationships 03:25 Co-Parents But Not Partners 11:23 Letting Go of the Pickup Artist Identity 18:38 Our Current Mating Culture 23:10 Priorities of the Black Pill Community 31:32 The Current State of Men’s Mental Health 42:36 Can You ‘Game’ Love? 50:17 Advice to People Failing to Connect 58:45 Three Steps to Resolve Your Past 1:08:00 Asking Why Emotions Arise 1:19:05 Chris’s Therapy Experience 1:25:50 Explaining Enmeshment 1:31:54 How to Know Who You Really Are 1:40:02 Becoming More Self-Compassionate 1:46:33 What’s Next for Neil - AG1 - Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and more from AG1 at https://drinkag1.com/wisdom Shopify - Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period from Shopify at https://www.shopify.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout) Momentous - Get up to 32% discount on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout). Nomatic - Get 20% discount on Nomatic’s amazing luggage at https://nomatic.com/modernwisdom (use code MW20) Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

SPEAKERS

Chris Williamson
host
Neil Strauss
guest

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Modern Wisdom, featuring Chris Williamson and Neil Strauss, The Truth About Women & Relationships - Neil Strauss, World's #1 Pickup Artist explores neil Strauss Redefines Love, Divorce, Masculinity And Self-Transformation Today Neil Strauss traces his journey from socially anxious journalist to pickup-artist chronicler in *The Game*, then into deep relationship work, marriage, divorce, and an unconventional but loving co‑parenting arrangement that includes having a second child with his ex‑wife. He argues that dating is relatively easy to hack, but relationships expose unhealed trauma, attachment patterns, and family-of-origin dynamics like abandonment and enmeshment. Strauss emphasizes the importance of continuous personal evolution over clinging to old identities or public brands, and he criticizes cynicism, victim mentality, and purely transactional views of mating (like looks‑money‑status). Throughout, he offers a practical framework for healing: periodic intensive emotional work, ongoing group accountability, and in‑the‑moment psychological tools to widen the gap between trigger and response.

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