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Dr Rangan ChatterjeeEsther Perel: Relationships and How They Shape Us | Feel Better Live More Podcast
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EPISODE INFO
- Released
- June 30, 2020
- Duration
- 1h 15m
- Channel
- Dr Rangan Chatterjee
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION
As human beings, relationships are fundamental to who we are. We know that relationships can be a big source of happiness and fulfillment in our lives but they can also be one of the major sources of stress. So, why is it that we often find relationships so hard? In this conversation, I speak to arguably one of the world’s leading and most original thinkers on modern relationships, the wonderful, Esther Perel, who has long been on my dream guest list. We talk about the many differences between relationships of the past and the relationships of now. How we are now all under pressure not only to have the perfect relationship, but also to portray this illusion to others as well. Esther believes that it’s the quality of our relationships that determines the quality of our lives. And who we are is actually a combination of how we see ourselves and how others see us. We only really get to know ourselves through our interactions with others. We talk about the idea that we are not one person but different with each person – and rather than being one-way, all interactions are reciprocal. We discuss the value of couples’ counselling and whether it’s something all relationships, healthy or otherwise, need. Reassuringly, we learn that there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship, they all follow a rhythm of harmony, disharmony and repair. Esther and I touch and expand on our own situations and how the family history and values you bring to a relationship or marriage impacts the dynamic between you. She talks us through how much the concept of marriage has changed over the past century, and how it’s a tall order to ask just one person in our lives to meet all of our needs – needs which once would have been shared across our extended families and communities. This episode is a joyous celebration of all the relationships in our lives. It’s challenging, poignant but ultimately hugely practical. Esther offers some wonderful examples of practices we can all start implementing today, from rituals to build strength in our intimate relationships, to advice on reframing criticism or starting difficult conversations at work. The upshot? Rather than hoping others will change, we can be the change ourselves. It was a great pleasure to speak with such an incredible lady and I know that you will get a lot of value from hearing what she has to say. Show notes available at https://drchatterjee.com/119 Connect with Esther: Website https://www.estherperel.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/estherperelofficial/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/esther.perel/ Twitter https://twitter.com/estherperel YouTube @estherperel Esther’s podcasts: Where should we begin? https://whereshouldwebegin.estherperel.com How’s work? https://howswork.estherperel.com Esther’s books: Mating in Captivity – https://amzn.to/3eN0qVK The State of Affairs – https://amzn.to/2YIqL1A Esther’s TED talks: The secret to desire in a long-term relationship https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship Rethinking fidelity….a talk for anyone who has ever loved https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved Related FBLM podcasts: #37 How Our Childhood Shapes Every Aspect of Our Health with Dr. Gabor Maté https://youtu.be/2oicQ2xFiIc #75 What Every Parent Should Know with Philippa Perry https://youtu.be/fxhCubqLQWw #feelbetterlivemore #estherperel #relationships -------- Feel Great Lose Weight is now available to order in the UK https://amzn.to/2W6bsOE and in the US & Canada https://amzn.to/2GWPgls Dr Chatterjee’s book Feel Better in 5 is out now in the UK https://amzn.to/2G0XK7l and in the US and Canada https://amzn.to/2EB2oM0 Order Dr Chatterjee’s book The Stress Solution https://amzn.to/2MZ8u8h Find Dr Chatterjee’s 4 Pillars of Health in The 4 Pillar Plan available via http://amzn.to/2yGfpuB The US version, How to Make Disease Disappear is available via https://amzn.to/2Gj1YEL ----- Listen to all previous podcast episodes on https://drchatterjee.com/podcast or via these podcast platforms by searching for 'Feel Better, Live More'. Apple Podcasts - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feel-better-live-more/id1333552422?mt=2 Acast - https://www.acast.com/feelbetterlivemore Stitcher - https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/feel-better-live-more Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/6NyPQfcSR9nj0DPDr2ixrK ----- Follow Dr Chatterjee at: Website: https://drchatterjee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drchatterjee Twitter: https://twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drchatterjee/ DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Psychotherapist and relationship expert, known for the podcasts "Where Should We Begin?" and "How’s Work?".
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee
hostMedical doctor and host of the "Feel Better, Live More" podcast.
EPISODE SUMMARY
In this episode of Dr Rangan Chatterjee, featuring Esther Perel and Dr. Rangan Chatterjee, Esther Perel: Relationships and How They Shape Us | Feel Better Live More Podcast explores Esther Perel on Relationships as Stories That Shape Who We Are Esther Perel argues that the self cannot be separated from relationships, since we only know ourselves through our interactions and each relationship is a co-created story.
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