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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Jay Shetty on Thinking Like a Monk for Purpose
- Jay Shetty argues that the mind can be trained like the body, and that monks are the experts to learn from, though you don't need to live like a monk to think like one.
- Using the Charles Horton Cooley quote, Shetty explains that we build our identity on what we think others think of us, and he proposes a values audit of money, time and current pursuits to realign goals with our own desires.
- The conversation covers emotional vocabulary, childhood conditioning, attachment styles and unspoken expectations in relationships, illustrated by stories about surprises, a fancy first date and the two-months'-salary ring from a De Beers ad.
- Shetty describes gratitude as something to express specifically to people, places and projects, and recommends job crafting to find meaning in difficult situations.
- Shetty closes by discussing social media motives, the three components of dharma, and a practical tip of designing the sights, scents and sounds of each room.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasYou can't control how others see you, but you can change how you see yourself
Shetty says trying to change others' opinions is a worthless pursuit, whereas aligning your behavior with your values changes how you feel about yourself.
Your values are shown by how you spend money and time
Shetty says to look at your bank statement and your time use, then ask whether each current pursuit is truly yours, and whether to continue, change or drop it. He suggests revisiting this regularly, like gardening or checking accounts.
You are not your negative habits
Shetty describes a jar of Post-it notes for tracking comparing, complaining and criticizing, and stresses that we are not negative people, just people who have adopted negative habits.
Unspoken expectations from childhood cause relationship friction
Shetty says our attachment styles and expectations come from childhood, and that without awareness and communication partners are expected to read minds, as with his birthday surprises and the different meanings people give to words like love.
Media can implant ideas that become unquestioned rules
Shetty traces the two-months'-salary engagement ring rule to a 1991 De Beers tagline, showing how an advertising idea can shape behavior for decades.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesWasting your time trying to change how someone thinks of you can actually be one of the most worthless pursuits in life. But changing how you think about yourself is probably one of the most worthwhile pursuits in life, but the one we spend less time on.
— Jay Shetty
We get lost building castles that we don't even want to live in.
— Jay Shetty
Your value isn't what's in your head, isn't what's in your heart, it isn't what's in your mind. It's how you spend your money and how you spend your time.
— Jay Shetty
It's not about not having goals, it's about making sure that your goals are actually yours.
— Jay Shetty
You don't want to create your joy because other people are struggling or suffering. You want to create your joy because you know how to deal with struggle and suffering.
— Jay Shetty
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SPEAKERS
Jay Shetty
guestAuthor and former monk known for teaching mindfulness and purpose-driven living.
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee
hostMedical doctor and host of the podcast “Feel Better, Live More” focused on health and wellbeing.
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