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Healing Children in War Zones: Lessons in Hope & Humanity | Dr Alexandra Chen
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Dr Rangan ChatterjeeDr Rangan Chatterjee

Healing Children in War Zones: Lessons in Hope & Humanity | Dr Alexandra Chen

This episode includes accounts from a doctor working in Gaza, with descriptions of death, violence, injury and the humanitarian impact of war. Some content may be distressing, and listener discretion is advised. How do you help a child heal when they've experienced unimaginable trauma? And how do you offer hope when the world around them is anything but safe? In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Alexandra Chen, a trauma psychologist who has spent 18 years working with children and families affected by war, displacement and torture across around 15 conflict zones. Most recently, her work has focused on supporting children and families in Gaza. Alexandra shares two extraordinary patient stories and explains why the most important thing we can offer someone experiencing trauma isn't always a solution, but the reassurance that they don't have to face it alone. We discuss how to create emotional safety when physical safety is impossible, why promising everything will be okay can damage trust, and why conventional approaches to trauma don't always work when danger is ongoing. She also explains how movement and expressive therapies can help children process experiences they don't have the words for, why we must trust people to guide their own healing, and what it really means to be resilient. Alexandra tells me about the conversation that inspired her to establish Healing for Gaza, connecting children and families with therapists around the world. What began with three people has grown into a team of 180. But this conversation goes beyond war and trauma. We explore the power of compassion, why empathy needs to lead to action, and how to respond to suffering without becoming overwhelmed or losing hope. Alexandra shares what nearly two decades of humanitarian work have taught her about human connection and our capacity to make a difference. Whether you've ever struggled to know what to say to someone going through a difficult time, or felt helpless in the face of suffering elsewhere in the world, this conversation is a powerful reminder that sometimes the greatest gift we can offer is simply being there. 🌱 Want to feel better and live more? Subscribe for new conversations that could change how you think about your health and your life. ________________________________________ Episode Chapters 00:00 Intro 00:50 The Reality of Life in War Zones 03:01 How to Create Emotional Safety After Trauma 06:43 Trauma Therapy in War Zones 08:10 Stories of Extreme Trauma 19:35 Why Listening Is Medicine 20:32 Why I Work With Children in War Zones 26:01 How Children Heal From Trauma 28:31 Parents, Children and Intergenerational Trauma 32:31 The Power of Trauma Therapy 34:59 What Is Healing for Gaza? 41:30 Letters of Hope for Children in Gaza 44:10 How War Changes Trauma Therapy 52:10 The Hidden Cost of Resilience 01:01:01 Survivor's Guilt and Trauma 01:04:45 The Emotional Cost of Humanitarian Work 01:08:32 Supporting Trauma Therapists 01:12:45 Changing How We See War and Trauma 01:15:01 Why We Disconnect From War 01:20:47 How Can We Make a Difference? Find out more about Healing for Gaza: https://www.instagram.com/healing_for_gaza/ https://healingforgaza.org/ To write a Letter of Love you can submit a letter here https://bit.ly/HFG-LettersfromtheWorld. To donate or find out about volunteering with Healing for Gaza you can find our more here https://healingforgaza.org/. #feelbetterlivemore #feelbetterlivemorepodcast ----- Follow Dr Chatterjee at: Website: https://drchatterjee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drchatterjee Twitter: https://twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drchatterjee/ Newsletter: https://drchatterjee.com/subscription DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Dr. Rangan ChatterjeehostDr Alexandra Chenguest
Nov 4, 20261h 33mWatch on YouTube ↗

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At a glance

WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Trauma therapy in war zones: honest safety, agency, and hope

  1. Dr Alexandra Chen describes what children and families endure in conflict zones, emphasizing both visible devastation and the “invisible wounds” of despair, terror, grief, and fractured identity and community.
  2. She explains that when physical safety cannot be guaranteed, ethical trauma care focuses on emotional safety through honesty, trust-building, and steadfast accompaniment without overpromising.
  3. Through stories from Gaza and Syria, she illustrates how therapy can address survivor’s guilt, family fragmentation, and the need to be witnessed—sometimes even through practical acts like documentation that helps people navigate asylum processes.
  4. She argues that standard PTSD frameworks often don’t fit active war conditions, requiring clinicians to unlearn one-size-fits-all approaches and avoid interventions that may be unsafe or overwhelming while danger continues.
  5. She outlines Healing for Gaza as a scalable, interpreter-supported model for culturally resonant therapy, alongside concrete ways outsiders can help (donations, clinician recruitment, interpreter training, and translated letters of support).

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

In war zones, emotional safety comes from honest accompaniment—not reassurance.

She describes emotional safety as truthful presence: naming danger while offering steady accompaniment, listening, and a nonjudgmental space for grief, fear, anger, and practical problem-solving.

Good intentions can become harm when helpers aren’t grounded in local reality and ethics.

She shares that overpromising (or acting without understanding context) can harm people and destroy trust; she illustrates this with an NGO distributing milk powder without usable instructions and without clean water access, leading to infants getting sick.

Being heard—and having your reality documented—can be life-preserving.

Dr Chen emphasizes that listening can be “medicine,” and in one case, careful documentation of a torture survivor’s story—translated and verified—became a protective tool in his asylum journey, reducing the need to repeatedly recount trauma.

Trauma therapy must change when danger is ongoing; survival strategies can be adaptive.

She explains that much conventional trauma therapy assumes safety (the “post” in PTSD), but in active conflict some survival responses like hypervigilance and dissociation are protective; down-regulating too much can be unsafe or overwhelming.

Agency and pacing are central—patients often know their limits better than clinicians.

She argues for moving slowly, offering choice, and treating therapy as a 50/50 partnership where the patient’s boundaries and feedback guide the pace; she repeatedly says to “trust the children” to show what they can handle.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

I spend a lot of time with people who have been on the receiving end of the most extreme forms of human brutality and cruelty, and in that, realizing that it is going to take not just an individual, but really an entire community to address the level of suffering and to begin some form of, form of healing.

— Dr Alexandra Chen

On my team, I always say, you know, that as much as you feel pressure to say that everything will be okay or that, you know, um, we are safe, uh, lying to someone in the moment just to give them a momentary comfort actually is quite dangerous to-

— Dr Alexandra Chen

So much of what I t- teach my team to say is, "I don't know," is actually saying to them that I may be a clinician with 25, 30 years of experience, but in this moment I don't know. But I will be with you in the not knowing, and I will be with you in the, in the, in the journey of the step-by-step into the unknown so that at least you won't be alone.

— Dr Alexandra Chen

Our job is to be still. Our job is to slow down. Our job is to listen.

— Dr Alexandra Chen

I think resilience is, is a central part of what makes us human and what allows us to overcome. But I caution against oversimplifying it- um, or just taking it for granted.

— Dr Alexandra Chen

Life in conflict zones and invisible psychological woundsEmotional safety vs physical safetyEthics of not overpromising and doing no harmListening, witnessing, and documentation as healingExpressive therapies (dance, art, movement) and pacingPTSD assumptions, survival adaptations, and unlearning frameworksResilience costs, guilt, and intergenerational/community fragmentation

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