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Dr Rangan ChatterjeeLife Is Short: 103-Year-Old Shares 5 Lessons For The Next 50 Years Of Your Life | Gladys McGarey
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Living Through the Past: Gladys's Approach to Regret
Rangan asks what separates people with regrets from those without. Gladys tells the grocery store story and says she'd rather live through difficult events than just try to get over them or fix them.
- •Gladys says she has a choice between fixing the past and getting on with life
- •The grocery store story with the 86-year-old man shows regret can be unnecessary
- •She describes living through events rather than only getting over them
- •Her image of a heavy bag on the shoulder giving you a stiff neck
The Frog Play and a Mother's Lesson in Laughter
Gladys explains how her mother helped her develop resilience. After repeating first grade and being called the class dummy, she fell into the pond in a school play, and her mother asked the family how Gladys could get people to laugh with her, not at her.
- •Repeating first grade damaged her self-image at school
- •A third-grade teacher made her class governor
- •She jumped into the pond during the frog play
- •Her mother turned the humiliation into a lesson in humor
- •Gladys says humor saved her life and career
Parenting and Listening to Children's Inner Knowing
Rangan asks what advice Gladys has for parents. She shares stories of her sons' questions at young ages, which pointed to the careers they later took, and a story about her great-grandson Ian praying.
- •Her son John asked about God at seven and became a minister
- •Her four-year-old son's idea about friends going around the world foreshadowed his work as a psychologist
- •Great-grandson Ian said God is all around us when children collected money for a well
- •Gladys says that if we let children express what they reach for, they reach further
Purpose: Why We're Here and the Power of Choice
Rangan raises the first secret in her book, that you are here for a reason, and asks about people who feel they've lived untrue to themselves. Gladys says purpose feeds the soul and that we each have free will and the responsibility to choose our direction.
- •Gladys says purpose feeds your soul and inner knowing knows why you're here
- •Nobody can choose for you unless you allow it
- •She shares her idea that humans were given free will and dominion, not dominance
- •Rangan notes that it is never too late to change course
Finding Purpose in Everything You Do and the Five Ls
Rangan asks whether we should find work aligned with purpose or find purpose in whatever we do. Gladys says it's both, but more productive to find purpose in everything, and then shares her five Ls.
- •Gladys says it's more productive to find purpose in everything we do
- •Rangan suggests purpose is more about attitude than activity
- •The five Ls are life, love, laughter, labor, and listening
- •Laughter, labor, and listening each need love to become joy, bliss, and understanding
Humor and Resilience Learned from Her Mother
Rangan links laughter to Bronnie Ware's observations about people with no regrets. Gladys describes how her mother and her own internship experience taught her to take what you can get and add humor.
- •Rangan cites Bronnie Ware's finding that people without regrets had a strong sense of humor
- •Gladys says her mother's lesson about laughing with people was pivotal
- •Her mother, an osteopath, traveled to India as part of her husband's luggage without taking offense
- •Gladys slept on an X-ray table during her internship rather than complain
- •Her mother's petunia joke, 'What's another zero?'
Aging Into Health Rather Than Anti-Aging
Asked about the anti-aging movement, Gladys says she prefers the term 'aging into health'. She describes her disabilities and the new things she can do, and Rangan reflects on society's negative view of aging.
- •Gladys rejects 'anti-aging' in favor of 'aging into health'
- •She is legally blind, uses hearing aids and a walker, yet talks to people worldwide
- •Having assistance and finding what you can do matters
- •She relies on her son John to help with what she can't do
Never Too Old to Learn: Finding Her Voice at 93
Rangan asks whether curiosity keeps bringing new wisdom. Gladys describes finding her voice at 93 after a dream of herself as a child in a mango tree with Jesus, which ended her habit of second-guessing her writing.
- •Gladys spent years asking others to check her work because of childhood trauma about being stupid
- •A dream at 93 showed her as nine-year-old Gladys singing in a mango tree
- •She woke asking why she couldn't accept herself if Jesus could
- •She says she learns something new every day
Purpose, Choosing the Day, and the Plant That Reached James
Rangan argues that longevity research misses the role of purpose, citing two older women he knows. Gladys contrasts a friend who dreads each day with her own 'Wow, another day,' and tells of a friend with dementia who responded to a plant.
- •Rangan says perfect blood results mean little without a reason to get up
- •Gladys says it's her choice whether to live the day or drag through it
- •She gave her friend James, who had dementia, a plant
- •Caring for the plant showed him something about what his life was still doing
Happiness, Connection Across Generations, and Life's Transitions
Gladys describes happiness as a choice and shares a tender moment with her great-granddaughter. Asked about transitions like empty nest, she advises using what's available, and says purpose should grow as we do; she also reflects on how technology has changed since her birth.
- •Gladys calls joy and happiness a choice
- •Her great-granddaughter touched her neck in a wordless loving connection
- •For transitions, she says to look for what's available and use it to your advantage
- •Purpose should grow as we grow
- •She was born in 1920 and her birth was announced by cablegram
Medicine, the Healer Within, and Love as Medicine
Rangan asks how medicine has changed. Gladys says technology has changed but hopes the reason for being a physician hasn't, describing the healing colleague within each patient and love as the great healer. They discuss loving difficult patients, hugging, and self-love through Kuch Bharwani.
- •She told her surgeon son Carl that each patient has a healing colleague within
- •Gladys says the heart of a physician's job remains love and listening
- •She considers it her problem if she can't love a patient
- •Unlikable behavior may come from not being loved enough
- •Kuch Bharwani is letting hurtful words drop and saying 'it doesn't matter'
Sharing What We Learn and Handling Bad Days
Asked about mental health struggles, Gladys says life is confusing and those who understand its secrets should share them. She tells of teaching 32 women in Afghanistan at 86, and explains how she handles a bad day.
- •Gladys says people find it hard to know what's healthy
- •Women particularly need to share what they learn
- •32 women she taught in Afghanistan took the knowledge home and maternal death rates improved
- •On a bad day she identifies the problem, acts or lives through it, and adds humor if she can
Daily Habits, Bluebell the Tricycle, and Rest as Action
Gladys shares her health practices: fresh clean food, water, movement with her walker, knitting washcloths, and sleep. They discuss her tricycle, her loss of vision, her step count, and how she came to see rest as doing something.
- •Gladys says she can't tell people what to eat but recommends fresh, clean food and water
- •She knits washcloths to give away and walks with her walker, Skywalker
- •Her red tricycle Bluebell threw her and broke three ribs
- •She listens to audiobooks now that she can't read
- •She realized telling a patient to rest is telling them to do something
Her Final Message: Love Is the Great Healer
Rangan praises her for writing a book at 100 and asks what message she wants to leave behind. Gladys says love is the great healer and that all living and inanimate things need to be touched with love.
- •Rangan says her story inspires anyone who thinks it's too late to change
- •Gladys's message is that love is the great healer
- •She says the loving thought and essence goes with everything she has loved and touched
- •Even inanimate things need to be touched with love
