Re:Thinking with Adam GrantWhat if Anna from Frozen set strong boundaries?
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1 min read · 172 words- 0:00 – 0:26
Scenario setup: Elsa vents, Anna needs to set a boundary
- AGAdam Grant
Imagine that you have someone close to you-
- KBKristen Bell
Mm-hmm
- AGAdam Grant
... who is dumping their problems on you.
- KBKristen Bell
Mm-hmm.
- AGAdam Grant
And complaining a lot, and you need to set a boundary. Uh, so you can treat me as Elsa, and you're Anna.
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- KBKristen Bell
Okay.
- AGAdam Grant
What would you say when Elsa's dragging you down? And I, I can say rolling whenever you're ready.
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- 0:26 – 0:36
Kristen Bell’s honesty: why boundary-setting is hard as herself
- KBKristen Bell
Do you know what's so funny? I'm processing so fast right now. I couldn't do this as Kristen. I would have passed on that question because I don't know how to do that to someone.
- AGAdam Grant
I know.
- 0:36 – 1:02
Anna’s boundary script: stay connected while not carrying the burden
- KBKristen Bell
But here's what Anna would do.
- AGAdam Grant
Okay, ready?
- KBKristen Bell
Okay.
- SPSpeaker
[laughs]
- AGAdam Grant
Okay. Hold on, hold on.
- KBKristen Bell
She would say-
- AGAdam Grant
Rolling
- KBKristen Bell
... "Elsa, you know you're my best friend and sister, and we always will be. But when you have these really heavy problems, I'm not sure right now I'm strong enough to carry them. So let's lay them in between us, and I'll still be here with you, but I can't hold them right now."
Episode duration: 1:03
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