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Change your Life in 3 Steps | Re-Write your Story through Narrative Identity - Shadé Zahrai

What differentiates those who bounce back from hardship versus those who get stuck in a pit of despair? It often comes down to the story that they tell themselves about the situation. We construct our reality based on the stories we tell ourselves and others about our lives – it’s called ‘Narrative Identity’ (McAdams, 2018). People who believe their lives are meaningful tend to tell stories defined by growth, communion & hope - these are called ‘redemptive stories’. But those who aren’t able to move on and have ‘become’ their experiences tend to tell what’s called ‘contamination stories’, focussed on how difficult and tragic their lives are. Even making small story edits to our personal narratives has been found to have a huge impact on our lives. NOTE: This is not about trying to Ctrl + Z parts of your life. We’re not denying what’s happened to us, or trying to change the past – although sometimes that does seem far easier… What we ARE doing is changing the meaning we apply to events to change the story we tell. We’re redefining challenges as growth opportunities and finding hope in the despair. Because when you re-write your story, you upgrade your identity. When you upgrade your identity, you change your future. -------- 🚀FREE TRAINING– Career Clarity: https://www.shadezahrai.com/cct-registration To find out more about Shadé, visit the website: https://www.shadezahrai.com FOLLOW ON SOCIAL: • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shadezahrai/ • TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shadezahrai • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shadezahraispeaker • LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shadezahrai

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July 24, 2022
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What differentiates those who bounce back from hardship versus those who get stuck in a pit of despair? It often comes down to the story that they tell themselves about the situation. We construct our reality based on the stories we tell ourselves and others about our lives – it’s called ‘Narrative Identity’ (McAdams, 2018). People who believe their lives are meaningful tend to tell stories defined by growth, communion & hope - these are called ‘redemptive stories’. But those who aren’t able to move on and have ‘become’ their experiences tend to tell what’s called ‘contamination stories’, focussed on how difficult and tragic their lives are. Even making small story edits to our personal narratives has been found to have a huge impact on our lives. NOTE: This is not about trying to Ctrl + Z parts of your life. We’re not denying what’s happened to us, or trying to change the past – although sometimes that does seem far easier… What we ARE doing is changing the meaning we apply to events to change the story we tell. We’re redefining challenges as growth opportunities and finding hope in the despair. Because when you re-write your story, you upgrade your identity. When you upgrade your identity, you change your future. -------- 🚀FREE TRAINING– Career Clarity: https://www.shadezahrai.com/cct-registration To find out more about Shadé, visit the website: https://www.shadezahrai.com FOLLOW ON SOCIAL:

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EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Dr. Shadé Zahrai, featuring Dr. Shadé Zahrai, Change your Life in 3 Steps | Re-Write your Story through Narrative Identity - Shadé Zahrai explores rewrite your narrative identity to transform confidence, meaning, and resilience Narrative identity argues that the stories you repeatedly tell about your life become your identity and shape your outcomes.

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