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The Anxious Generation with social psychologist Jonathan Haidt | A Bit of Optimism Podcast

Anxiety disorders affect Gen Z at astronomically higher rates than previous generations. There's plenty to be anxious about in the modern world. But the reason behind Gen Z's mental health crisis might be simpler than you'd think.

Simon SinekhostGreat Minds Jonathan Haidtguest

Mar 27, 202456mWatch on YouTube

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Moral Conflict and the Games We Play Online
Simon Sinek opens with the conflict of morality, where both sides believe they hold the moral good. Jonathan Haidt says to ask what game each person is playing, and describes social media as a Colosseum where people play to an audience, with platforms reconfiguring between 2009 and 2012 to inflame conflict.
- •Both sides now believe they are fighting for the moral good rather than just disagreeing
- •Venting to a friend has been replaced by venting online and then responding to reactions
- •Haidt asks what game each person is playing: expressing feelings, convincing, or proving they are right
- •Social media incentives reward playing to an audience, not finding truth
- •Like and share buttons and algorithms arrived around 2009-2012 and fueled polarization
Collective Action Problem: Smartphones and Kids
Sinek asks how to fix America, and Haidt splits the problem into kids and democracy. He frames kids' smartphone use as a collective action problem, where each family is worse off acting alone but better off acting together.
- •Haidt says the kids' problem can be solved in a year or two, while democracy is much harder
- •Students say they can't quit because everyone else is on social media
- •Tech companies have created a collective action problem for parents and kids
- •If a quarter of parents act together, kids can have a normal childhood with unsupervised play
Parent Anxiety, Flip Phones and Phone-Free Schools
Sinek notes that parents often resist school phone bans out of anxiety. Haidt responds that flip phones let parents reach kids, that kids should be out on their own by around eight, and that most parents would back phone-free schools if everyone does it.
- •Parents worry about reaching their kids in an emergency, and Sinek says schools can be called
- •Haidt advocates no smartphones until high school, with flip phones as an alternative
- •Flip phones encourage one-to-one communication rather than broadcasting
- •Principals and teachers hate phones in school, and most parents would support lockers or pouches
Sinek's Niece and Nephew and the Great Rewiring of Childhood
Haidt asks about Sinek's niece and nephew, then explains that boys and girls use phones for similar time but different platforms. He argues 2010 to 2015 was a great rewiring of childhood, with depression beginning around 2012-2013.
- •Sinek's niece uses TikTok and FaceTime, and his nephew uses YouTube
- •Haidt says FaceTime is fine
- •Girls went to visual social media while boys went to video games and YouTube
- •Haidt says the depression epidemic begins around 2012-2013
- •Giving kids phones was like opening a window to strangers and companies
Analog Distractions and Why We Didn't See the Harm Coming
Sinek shares examples of analog alternatives like paper and pencils at dinner. Haidt says that around 2011-2012, parents saw the internet as a friend to democracy and a head start for kids, and only later realized the harm.
- •Sinek recalls a brunch where parents chatted while kids were on devices, versus friends who bring paper and pencils
- •Haidt describes the optimism of the 1990s and the Arab Spring era
- •Millennials' mental health was a little better than Gen X
- •Parents in 2011-2012 thought early iPhone use might help kids
- •Many people turned on social media only after 2016
Millennials vs. Gen Z: Flip Phones vs. iPhones
Sinek asks how Millennials and Gen Z differ. Haidt says Millennials grew up with flip phones while Gen Z got smartphones and social media at the start of puberty, which sharply cut time spent with friends.
- •Overprotective childhood already began in the 1980s and 1990s
- •Millennials got social media in college, after puberty
- •Gen Z is the first to get smartphones and social media at the beginning of puberty
- •Time with friends plummeted after 2012
- •Humans are a social species and can't grow up without social interaction
Is the Internet Bad for Democracy? Organizing Against Disorganization
Sinek raises the irony that the internet, once expected to help democracy, may be harming it, noting authoritarian regimes' crackdowns. He also lists its benefits for innovation and entrepreneurship, and asks how to organize collective action when the internet organizes disorganization.
- •Sinek says the internet may be possibly the worst thing for democracy
- •China limits children's phone time
- •Sinek says the internet has changed innovation and let small companies compete with big ones
- •Sinek says people complain and propose silver bullets but nothing is being done
- •Social animals can only cure social problems socially
Madison's Design, Politicians on Twitter and Congress's Lost Humanity
Haidt argues digital technology helps authoritarian states while straining the representative system Madison designed. Sinek adds that members of Congress now perform for cameras, fundraise, and rarely socialize, so they no longer see each other as human.
- •Tristan Harris argues digital technology helps authoritarian countries
- •Madison's design insulated representatives from passions, but the network era overwhelms it
- •Haidt describes Ted Cruz checking Twitter right after a Senate speech
- •Sinek says congressional debate has shifted from mostly private to 100% for the cameras
- •Members of Congress no longer move their families to Washington or socialize across parties
Restoring Humanity: Playdates, Phone Withdrawal and Summer Camp
Sinek connects teen socialization and congressional socialization as restoration of humanity. They discuss phone withdrawal on a family vacation, summer camp phone bans, the problem of daily AI-curated camp photos, and Newt Gingrich's shortened congressional schedule.
- •Sinek suggests hosting playdates where kids' phones are collected and parents call the host
- •A family vacation without phones was awful for two or three days and then became bonding time
- •Haidt says summer camp lets dopamine neurons reset
- •Haidt urges camps to stop sending daily photos
- •Gingrich's Tuesday-Thursday schedule drained interaction among politicians
Hope for Kids but Not for Democracy
Sinek asks if Haidt is hopeful for democracy. He is hopeful about the kids, because the issue is bipartisan, but not about democracy while social media and Congress stay as they are, citing distrust on the right and Google's AI.
- •Haidt distinguishes social media from the internet itself
- •Kids' issues are bipartisan, so he expects progress
- •Democracy is complicated by the right's belief that the left censors them online
- •Haidt cites Google's new AI as a reason the right may distrust it
- •Haidt says he doesn't see a way out for democracy
The Four Norms and a Movement That Doesn't Need Convincing
Asked about a project he loved, Haidt names the Changing Childhood project, where no persuasion is needed. He lays out four norms and predicts fast change, comparing it to the fall of communism.
- •Earlier causes required hard persuasion and achieved little
- •Four norms: no smartphone before high school, no social media before 16, phone-free schools, and more independence and free play
- •The norms cost almost nothing and are bipartisan
- •Haidt expects different norms by the end of 2025
- •Gen Z, parents and teachers are all unhappy but don't know what to do
Rock Wars, Risky Play and Relieving Tension
Asked for a happy childhood memory, Haidt recalls a rock fight and paintball, arguing that real risk is the best kind of play. Sinek then observes that Haidt's work is most powerful when it relieves existing tension rather than creating it, and Haidt agrees.
- •Haidt's memory is a rock fight with rules against aiming at faces
- •Real physical risk helps nervous systems learn to handle risk, unlike Fortnite
- •Paintball hurts and so matters, while laser tag is pathetic
- •Sinek says convincing creates tension while Haidt's current work relieves it
- •Haidt says the UK is ready to tip after parents launched a delay smartphones site
Generations, Gen Z at Work and Building Real Confidence
Haidt says Sinek's millennial critique is accurate except on mental health, which is truer of Gen Z. They discuss how technology defines generations, Gen Z's discomfort with discomfort and uncertainty, and why capability, not self-esteem, builds confidence.
- •Haidt says Sinek's workplace observations fit Gen Z even more than Millennials
- •Jean Twenge argues technology increasingly defines generations, citing McLuhan's 'the medium is the message'
- •Sinek notes discomfort with feedback, quitting without a job and uneven respect for boundaries
- •Sinek says uncertainty undermines confidence, as with dictators and manipulators
- •Haidt says to build capabilities rather than self-esteem, and kids need things to do with other kids

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