Dr K: We Are Producing Millions Of Lonely, Addicted, Purposeless Men & Women!

This is the whole problem that everyone makes. Any time we have a problem, the first thing that we do is we try to jump to a solution. If I'm unhappy in life, I need to make more money. If I'm struggling with dating, I need to be sexier. It's a concept that I call toxic fuel, and that will never work because if I give you a glass of water, and then I piss in it, and then I add sugar, it doesn't remove the piss, because no amount of building something good will remove something bad. In order to change behavior, what you need to do is-

Say (censored) to you. Dr. K is the Harvard-trained psychiatrist and former monk specializing in modern mental health-

Blending neuroscience with real-life wisdom to help millions of people unlock their true potential. There's a loneliness epidemic. Social anxiety is increasing, and falling in love seems harder, but we have all the answers. The problem is that everyone is doing the wrong things now. First of all, talking about our problems can absolutely make things worse because there's a particular way we have to talk, but we're not taught how to do that. The second thing is that we are struggling to fall in love, and that's actually because we're exhausting our dopamine through things like devices. Yeah. People don't realize. And then the rise in social anxiety is because everyone is texting. So the parts of our brain that reassure us in social situations are starting to rust. So there are core things that we have to start doing. So the first is that-

Dr. K, why don't people achieve their goals?

Now, this is really interesting. There are two kinds of people in life. There are people who are like, "I'm gonna advance towards my goals," and then there are the rest of us, who are like, "You know, I'm trying to be like these people who are productive, but I'm gonna do nothing." And trauma is the big difference here.

Really?

Yeah. And this is what tends to happen. So-

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I help them understand themselves.

And now expand for me-

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... what that means. (laughs)

Yeah. So, so here's the thing, right? So there are two great traditions that have taught us about how humans work. One tradition is spirituality, which we've had for a couple thousand years. The other tradition is science, which we've seen an explosion of, especially in the fields of like neuroscience and psychiatry over the last 20 years. And so these are the two places that human beings learn about themselves. So when I work with someone, what I try to do is draw on both of those traditions, and I especially focus on the area of spirituality that has scientific verification and teach people like how they work. So in the same way that if we think about like, you know, when you buy a car, you have like a manual that is in the glove b- compartment that tells you what everything is and how it works. The problem is that in life, like we don't have that manual for ourselves, but we do have these two great traditions that can teach us so much about this stuff. And so what I try to do is basically translate those two traditions to an individual, the situation they face, the challenges they face, and the goals that they want to achieve.