Former FBI Agent: If They Do This Please RUN! Narcissists Favourite Trick To Control You!

I was in the FBI for 25 years. I have sat with spies and enemies of this country, and I learned a lot about human behaviors. Imagine being able to read other people and circumstances faster. It gives you a tremendous advantage in your life.

I want to hit everything.

So one of the first things I teach is...

Joe Navarro is a former FBI agent turned world-renowned body language expert.

He helps people decode body language to improve communication, trust, and influence.

One of the things that I've found in negotiations is we, as humans, communicate quite a lot with our faces. For instance, we push this together when we don't understand something, and then the minute we hear something we don't like, blood actually begins to leave the lips, and then we begin to tighten them. Another behavior is that when there's a lack of confidence, insecurities, people immediately... So once we understand these behaviors, you can take command of any situation.

Confidence, is this something that you're born with, or do you think confidence can be trained?

It can absolutely be trained, so the FBI actually teach confidence, and there's a lot of strategies. One of them is the most powerful gesture that we can use, and you see Musk do this a lot, but what I tell people is that the easiest way to learn confidence is to...

Joe, we actually videoed my interaction with you when I met you, and I've got the video here.

So one of the things you immediately did was... Don't do that. It's a no-no.

This has always blown my mind a little bit. 53% of you that listen to this show regularly haven't yet subscribed to the show. So could I ask you for a favor before we start? If you like this show and you like what we do here and you want to support us, the free, simple way that you can do just that is by hitting the subscribe button. And my commitment to you is, if you do that, then I'll do everything in my power, me and my team, to make sure that this show is better for you every single week. We'll listen to your feedback, we'll find the guests that you want me to speak to, and we'll continue to do what we do. Thank you so much. Joe, zooming out, if someone asked you in the street and they wanted a two-sentence answer, "Who are you and what have you spent your life doing?" How would you answer that question?

With one word: teaching. I think I've spent my whole life teaching. Even, even when I was in the FBI, uh, starting in 1984, a lot of my job was obviously being an FBI agent, investigating crimes, uh, chasing after spies and so forth, but, uh, you know, I hired on in 1978, but as early as '84, I was already teaching, and, um, I love it when, when people get it and they, they see a behavior, they understand the, uh, underpinnings, the foundation of why we do certain things. I'll give you an example. Sometimes you'll come to a horrible, uh, scene and, uh, people immediately (gasps) gasp, they take in air, and then they cover their, their, their mouths, or there's one point difference on the scoreboard and people are like this, and they don't understand. This is, this is, uh, back where we were surrounded by lions and tigers and we learned to cover our mouths so as not to broadcast our breath so that they couldn't see where we were or find us, and uh, and so the human body has, uh, a few shortcuts. I should say the human brain. They're called heuristics. And so one of them is to freeze, uh, so when we hear a loud sound or we see a predator or a dog, we, we, we freeze. Obviously whoever ran 300,000 years ago, uh, was bitten. Um, and so we have these shortcuts and uh, and it's always fascinating to me to share why we have these behaviors and why we... And you realize you just inhaled so you can hold your breath, and then we cover our breath so we don't broadcast for the, the predators to, to smell us.