Lucy Hale Opens Up For The First Time About Eating Disorders, Relationships & Addiction | E224

Lucy Hale Opens Up For The First Time About Eating Disorders, Relationships & Addiction | E224

The Diary of a CEOFeb 23, 20231h 30m

Lucy Hale (guest), Steven Bartlett (host)

Childhood, family dynamics, and early feelings of being an outsiderEating disorders, body image, and controlAlcohol addiction, binge drinking, and the path to sobrietyImpact of early fame and Pretty Little Liars on identity and mental healthPeople-pleasing, low self-worth, and relationship patternsRebuilding authenticity, self-compassion, and inner joyFuture aspirations: relationships, family, creativity, and boundaries

In this episode of The Diary of a CEO, featuring Lucy Hale and Steven Bartlett, Lucy Hale Opens Up For The First Time About Eating Disorders, Relationships & Addiction | E224 explores lucy Hale Reveals Sobriety, Self-Hatred, Healing And Redefining Real Happiness Lucy Hale sits down for her first in-depth, unfiltered conversation about the inner turmoil behind her early fame, including eating disorders, addiction, and chronically low self-worth. She explains how acting became both an escape and a band-aid for childhood pain, identity loss, and people-pleasing tendencies. Lucy details her decades-long struggle with alcohol, her eating disorder from her teens into her 20s, and the way Pretty Little Liars intensified her self-loathing rather than fixing it. Now over a year sober, she describes building real self-acceptance, healthier relationships, and a new definition of joy rooted in internal peace rather than external success.

Lucy Hale Reveals Sobriety, Self-Hatred, Healing And Redefining Real Happiness

Lucy Hale sits down for her first in-depth, unfiltered conversation about the inner turmoil behind her early fame, including eating disorders, addiction, and chronically low self-worth. She explains how acting became both an escape and a band-aid for childhood pain, identity loss, and people-pleasing tendencies. Lucy details her decades-long struggle with alcohol, her eating disorder from her teens into her 20s, and the way Pretty Little Liars intensified her self-loathing rather than fixing it. Now over a year sober, she describes building real self-acceptance, healthier relationships, and a new definition of joy rooted in internal peace rather than external success.

Key Takeaways

External success does not resolve internal pain or self-worth issues.

Lucy assumed that landing a hit show, fame, and financial security would make her feel whole. ...

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Eating disorders are often less about appearance and more about control and worth.

Lucy’s eating disorder began around 13–15, before Hollywood, and consumed her thoughts from waking to sleep. ...

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Addiction is a maladaptive solution to pain, not the core problem.

Lucy describes alcohol as initially feeling like the missing piece that freed her, made her 'fun' and likable, and quieted her relentless mind. ...

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People-pleasing and avoiding authenticity create resentment, rage, and self-betrayal.

Lucy explains that constantly doing things to be liked—rather than from genuine desire—generated bottled-up anger and resentment. ...

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Self-compassion and inner-child work transform shame into resilience.

Looking back on her younger self, Lucy replaces contempt with compassion, seeing a teenager using the only coping tools she had. ...

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Sustainable joy is internal, stable, and not contingent on circumstances.

Lucy differentiates happiness from joy: happiness as fleeting and often tied to external wins, and joy as long-term, self-generated, and independent of roles or achievements. ...

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Healthy relationships require two whole people, not mutual rescuing or identity-filling.

Reflecting on her 'tons of failed relationships,' Lucy sees patterns: being drawn to partners with similar wounds, trying to fix them, seeking validation, or sabotaging intimacy when people got too close. ...

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Notable Quotes

It fixed literally nothing. If anything, there were more problems.

Lucy Hale (on Pretty Little Liars and success)

I hated myself so much that I couldn’t even give it basic needs, like food.

Lucy Hale

Alcohol isn’t the problem. The problem is this feeling inside of me. Alcohol was the solution for a while.

Lucy Hale

My job has been a huge Band-Aid for a lot of issues in my life.

Lucy Hale

I can sleep at night really well because I like who I am, and it’s just as simple as that.

Lucy Hale

Questions Answered in This Episode

You said alcohol was a 'solution' to a feeling inside you—if you had to name that feeling more precisely now, what would it be and where do you think it first took root?

Lucy Hale sits down for her first in-depth, unfiltered conversation about the inner turmoil behind her early fame, including eating disorders, addiction, and chronically low self-worth. ...

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When Pretty Little Liars was at its peak and your self-worth was at its lowest, was there a specific on-set moment or interaction that crystallized the gap between who the world thought 'Lucy Hale' was and how you experienced yourself privately?

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You credit your Italian boyfriend with helping you relearn enjoyment of food—if he hadn’t come into your life then, what do you think it would realistically have taken to shift your eating disorder, and how might that have changed your 20s?

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You mentioned attracting partners who matched your chaos or pain; can you pinpoint a recent moment where you consciously chose not to repeat an old relationship pattern, and what did that decision look like in practice?

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Now that you’re over a year sober and more anchored in who you are, what specific boundaries or non-negotiables would you put in place if you were offered a huge new series that demanded the same intensity and visibility as Pretty Little Liars?

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Transcript Preview

Lucy Hale

You have to go to a dark place sometimes to like get to that point. (sniffs) Ooh. Um. (sniffs) We are so excited to have Lucy Hale. She's been in the spotlight since she was just a kid. Stars on the hit show, Pretty Little Liars. And now a movie star. Not what you were expecting? You might be the first real deep conversation I've had. It's dark, disgusting, and scary. I wish I could go back and tell my 16-year-old self, "Buckle up, girl, (laughs) we're gonna go through some..."

Steven Bartlett

Lucy Hale!

Lucy Hale

Lucy Hale. Lucy Hale, everybody.

Steven Bartlett

When you have those successes in life, we have an assumption that it'll fix a bunch of stuff. What didn't it fix?

Lucy Hale

I struggled with an eating disorder, because society makes it really freaking hard (laughs) to like the way you look. I hated myself so much that I couldn't even give it basic needs, like food. I did not feel worthy of the success, or the career, or the people in my life. And then the coping mechanisms were, like, incredibly self-destructive. I've been working on getting sober since I was 20. I just, like, held onto that belief that real Lucy came out when she was drinking. I tried to change for my mom. I tried to change for my career. One of my best friends died of alcoholism, and that still didn't make me want to get sober. None of that ... works. Alcohol isn't the problem. The problem is this feeling inside of me. I have to try it a different way.

Steven Bartlett

Was there a darkest day?

Lucy Hale

Oh boy. (sniffs)

Steven Bartlett

I just wanna start this episode with a message of thanks. A thank you to everybody that tunes in to listen to this podcast. By doing so, you've enabled me to live out my dream, but also for many members of our team to live out their dreams too. It's one of the greatest privileges I could never have dreamed of or imagined in my life to get to do this, to get to learn from these people, to get to have these conversations, to get to interrogate them from a very selfish perspective, trying to solve problems I have in my life. So, I feel like I owe you a huge thank you for being here and for listening to these episodes and for making this platform what it is. Can I ask you a favor? I can't tell you how much, um, you can change the course of this podcast, the, the, the course of the guests we're able to invite to the show, and to the course of everything that we do here just by doing one simple thing. And that simple thing is hitting that subscribe button. Helps this channel more than I could ever explain. The guests on this platform are incredible because so many of you have hit that button. And I know when we think about what we wanna do together over the next year on this show, a lot of it is gonna be fueled by the amount of you that are subscribed and that tune into this show every week. So, thank you. Let's keep doing this. And I can't wait to see what this year brings for this show, for us as a community, and for this platform. Lucy.

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