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ADHD Chatter PodcastSara Pascoe made to take ADHD test LIVE. Husband disagrees with result!!
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Comedian couple Sara Pascoe and Steen Raskopoulos debate ADHD, diagnosis, and marriage
- Steen has an ADHD diagnosis, while Sara calls herself an 'ADHD refuser' who sits in 'the squidge' of having some symptoms without needing a diagnosis.
- Sara describes how Steen's half-finished tasks, such as unemptied washing machines and dropped towels, created resentment and a nagging dynamic until they understood it as ADHD.
- On an informal online test Sara scored 25 out of 50, not consistent with ADHD, though Steen thinks she may have it and she attributes her stress and irritability to overwork, small children and lack of sleep.
- Steen explains that the diagnosis reduced his self-hatred, but a bad past experience with antidepressants leaves him hesitant to collect his ADHD medication prescription.
- They discuss rejection sensitivity, shutdown during perceived criticism, and how being comedians shapes their relationship and the comedy scene's openness about ADHD.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasA diagnosis can reduce self-blame
Steen says the first thing his diagnosis did was make him feel less negative and angry toward himself, seeing his patterns as chemical rather than intentional.
Prompting a partner can breed resentment on both sides
Sara says reminding Steen about chores left her feeling like a nag or carrying the mental load, while Steen says reminders are helpful and not nagging.
Sara questions the line between ADHD and an overloaded life
She argues that many people juggle too much in a world that is too demanding, and that her stress, mood swings and irritability may come from workload, kids and poor sleep rather than ADHD.
Criticism can trigger shutdown that partners misread
Steen describes hearing criticism where none was intended and going internally silent, and Sara notes that flagging 'I'm not criticizing you' can help.
Past medication trauma fuels hesitation
Steen was misdiagnosed with depression, prescribed antidepressants and weaned off aggressively, so he fears side effects and still hasn't collected his ADHD prescription.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesI think sometimes the world is wrong, not people.
— Sara Pascoe
I don't think I'm incompetent, I think I'm an idiot. Like, I'm not doing it intentionally kind of thing.
— Steen Raskopoulos
We have a job which exacerbates certain personality traits rather than making you grow up and be more balanced.
— Sara Pascoe
Start running at 8:00, and at 7:50, like, "Cool, I'll go get a coffee." And as soon as it hits, like, 8:01, you've missed it.
— Steen Raskopoulos
I think comedians like to think that because we think we're fascinating, but I think, I think we talk probably, we get... We always have a microphone near our face, so we get to talk a lot about those things.
— Sara Pascoe
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Sara Pascoe
guestComedian, writer, and actor who discusses her family life and experiences around ADHD.
Steen Raskopoulos
guestComedian and actor who discusses his ADHD diagnosis and its impact on daily life and relationships.
Alex Partridge
hostPodcast host focused on ADHD conversations, interviews, and on-air ADHD tests.
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