The Curiosity Shop with Brené Brown and Adam GrantWhat Great Teams Teach Us About Trust, Grief, and Courage | The Curiosity Shop
At a glance
WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Great teams build trust through courage, grief literacy, and kindness
- Using the San Antonio Spurs and Gregg Popovich as a model, they argue that psychological safety enables both emotional expression and elite performance in hyper-competitive environments.
- They frame “caring out loud” and publicly naming what you want (goals, ambitions) as an underappreciated form of vulnerability and courage, especially because it risks visible disappointment and shame.
- They examine grief—including miscarriage, suicide loss, and mass tragedy—showing how community support (and even simply showing up) builds trust, while silence and comfort-seeking deepen isolation.
- They introduce practical relational tools such as concentric “comfort in, dump out” circles and distinguish cognitive empathy (holding space) from affective empathy (absorbing feelings) to prevent burnout.
- They review evidence that shame-based coaching and abusive leadership harm long-term performance by driving concealment, dysregulation, and lasting scars, even if short-term compliance improves.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasPsychological safety is a performance technology, not a “soft” perk.
Wembanyama’s “it feels safe—if I fall, people will pick me up” illustrates how trust reduces fear of judgment, making it easier to take risks, learn fast, and recover from setbacks.
Caring visibly takes courage because it makes loss and disappointment public.
They connect emotional openness (e.g., celebrating or crying after a win) with safe cultures: when judgment drops, people can care without needing a “nonchalant” shield.
Sharing your goals is an act of vulnerability that invites both support and exposure.
Public goals can increase accountability, but people avoid them because failure becomes socially legible (“everyone will know you’re hurting”); selectively sharing with “marble jar” people balances risk and support.
Silence around miscarriage and other losses multiplies grief with shame.
When no one knows you were pregnant, you grieve alone and also carry the burden of disclosure; talking with a trusted inner circle can reduce isolation and normalize a common but hidden experience.
Use “comfort in, dump out” to prevent hurting the person closest to the pain.
Support should flow inward (toward the person most affected), while venting and processing should flow outward to more distant circles, so the core person isn’t forced to carry others’ emotions too.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesNo, it feels safe. It feels like if I were to fall, there are people there to pick me up.
— Brené Brown (quoting Victor Wembanyama)
Letting the people around you that you trust know how much you want something is courage.
— Brené Brown
You comfort in, and you dump out.
— Adam Grant
Grief was unexpressed love.
— Adam Grant
You can change a child's behavior with shame on a dime. But you are forever changing who they are.
— Brené Brown
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