Vanessa Van Edwards: The cues that decide if you're liked

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

December 9, 2024

Duration

2h 43m

Channel

The Diary of a CEO

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of ‘Science of People’, which gives people science-backed skills to improve communication and leadership. She is also the bestselling author of ‘Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People’ and ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication'. 00:00 Intro 02:13 The Crucial Role of Cues for Success 03:45 I'm a Recovered Awkward Person 05:36 What's an Ambivert 07:28 One Word Can Change the Way People Think 09:39 The Most Fundamental Skill to Invest In 12:41 The Resting B*tch Face Effect 16:01 Do Not Fake Smile! 18:29 The 97 Cues to Be Warm & Competent 21:44 The Formula to a Perfect Conversation 24:37 Science Reveals Why Some People Are Extremely Popular 28:34 Message People Telling Them This... 33:22 The Luck Experiment 35:05 Being Around Successful People Is Contagious 41:55 The Importance of Hand Gestures 43:38 Hand Tricks to Be Liked 54:15 The Scientific Formula to Be More Charismatic 56:47 The Danger Zone of Being Too Warm or Competent 58:45 The Power Cues 1:07:55 How to Spot a Liar 1:15:23 If You've Been Told You're Intimidating, Do This 1:18:37 Don't Let Anyone Use This With You 1:21:45 The 6 Questions to Connect With Someone 1:34:20 Leaning Too Much Towards Someone... 1:39:03 How to Greet Someone 1:49:42 How to Master Messaging 1:54:40 Personal Branding 1:59:01 Improve Your Dating Life With These Tips 2:04:27 Body Language and Brain Connection 2:06:33 Are You Awkward? Watch This 2:10:14 How to Get Someone to Approach You 2:15:08 How to Make Friends as an Adult 2:18:57 AirPods Are Killing Friendships 2:22:16 Ads 2:24:08 How to Spot a Liar 2:30:05 Toxic Relationships 2:32:34 How to Start a Conversation With a Stranger 2:37:00 How to Get Started With All This Knowledge Follow Vanessa: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/cm3A7r1O6Ob Twitter - https://g2ul0.app.link/IVgMiQ3O6Ob Science of People - https://g2ul0.app.link/5LJ8mO5O6Ob You can access the images mentioned, here: https://linktr.ee/diaryofaceostudies You can purchase Vanessa’s book, ‘Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication’, here: https://amzn.to/3ZFzkcT You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb Get access to exclusive Diary of a CEO content: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGq-a57w-aPwyi3pW7XLiHw/join Sponsors: Shopify - https://shopify.com/bartlett Linkedin Jobs - https://www.linkedin.com/doac ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code STEVEN10 for 10% off

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Vanessa Van Edwards

  guest

• Steven Bartlett

  host

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Diary of a CEO, featuring Vanessa Van Edwards and Steven Bartlett, Vanessa Van Edwards: The cues that decide if you're liked explores master Charisma: Science-Backed Cues Transform Confidence, Connection, And Success Behavioral researcher Vanessa Van Edwards explains how subtle nonverbal and verbal ‘cues’ drive 82% of the impressions we make, shaping our success in relationships, careers, and dating. She distinguishes between warmth (trust, likability) and competence (power, reliability) and shows how most people unknowingly mis-signal both. Drawing on 17+ years of research and 400,000 students, she shares specific body language, vocal, and conversational tools that can be learned—even by “recovering awkward people”—to build authentic charisma rather than “faking it.”

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