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Let’s Stop Calling Kids “Shy”

When our kids are older, we usually define confidence as trusting yourself and not following the crowd. And yet, when our kids are younger, we often have the exact opposite definition: Why isn’t my kid confident enough to make friends at the playground? Why won’t my child leave my lap at a party? Why do they stay on the sidelines at soccer? In this episode, Dr. Becky talks to three callers about reframing shyness as a form of confidence. With practical scripts and strategies, she encourages parents to reflect on what shyness brings up for us, resist the “shy” label, and tell our kids that they’ll know when they’re ready. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: My Kids Are Out of Control, What Should I Do? - https://youtu.be/4XP5Colc6QM What to Do When Your Kid Is Bullied - https://youtu.be/Gqsm7AyJI2U Why Won't My Kids Listen To Anything I Say? - https://youtu.be/Rb7FSL1y3Oo Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY

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May 10, 202228mWatch on YouTube ↗

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EPISODE INFO

Released
May 10, 2022
Duration
28m
Channel
Good Inside with Dr. Becky
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

When our kids are older, we usually define confidence as trusting yourself and not following the crowd. And yet, when our kids are younger, we often have the exact opposite definition: Why isn’t my kid confident enough to make friends at the playground? Why won’t my child leave my lap at a party? Why do they stay on the sidelines at soccer? In this episode, Dr. Becky talks to three callers about reframing shyness as a form of confidence. With practical scripts and strategies, she encourages parents to reflect on what shyness brings up for us, resist the “shy” label, and tell our kids that they’ll know when they’re ready. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: My Kids Are Out of Control, What Should I Do? - https://youtu.be/4XP5Colc6QM What to Do When Your Kid Is Bullied - https://youtu.be/Gqsm7AyJI2U Why Won't My Kids Listen To Anything I Say? - https://youtu.be/Rb7FSL1y3Oo Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY

SPEAKERS

  • Dr. Becky

    host

    Clinical psychologist and parenting expert behind the Good Inside platform.

  • Caller 1

    guest

    Caller Anne, a parent seeking advice about her toddler’s shyness and confidence.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky and Caller 1, Let’s Stop Calling Kids “Shy” explores reframing shyness as confidence and changing parental responses wisely Dr. Becky reframes shyness as a potential form of confidence: a child listening to their internal signals instead of following the crowd.

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