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Rethinking Consequences in Parenting

Time-out. Dinner without dessert. No screen time. If you’re like most parents, you’ve reached your wit’s end and threatened your kid with one (or all!) of these consequences. Then the next day… they’re back to throwing blocks. How many times do you have to yell, “If you throw that block one more time, no ______!” What if we told you there was a better way? In this week’s episode, Dr. Becky explores the problem with consequences and how you can parent much more effectively without them. Don’t worry: This doesn’t mean letting your kid “get away” with challenging or dangerous behavior. It means embodying your authority, connecting to your child, and teaching them the life-long skills they need to manage big feelings. If you love the Good Inside approach and struggle with the idea of no consequences, one thing is true: This episode is for you. Listen to the full episode: https://youtu.be/_wlzn6Oi1ls Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: Does Praise Have Unintended Consequences? - https://youtu.be/zK10qBLuc3A A Parent's #1 Job - https://youtu.be/dxM2cnLfHWA Setting Boundaries With Nedra Tawwab - https://youtu.be/oCHIJykb7qQ Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Yes, One-Year-Olds Have Tantrums - https://youtu.be/yE2To4sOHG8 #GoodInsidePodcast #DrBecky #parentingpodcast

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Released
August 4, 2022
Duration
5m
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Good Inside with Dr. Becky
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Time-out. Dinner without dessert. No screen time. If you’re like most parents, you’ve reached your wit’s end and threatened your kid with one (or all!) of these consequences. Then the next day… they’re back to throwing blocks. How many times do you have to yell, “If you throw that block one more time, no ______!” What if we told you there was a better way? In this week’s episode, Dr. Becky explores the problem with consequences and how you can parent much more effectively without them. Don’t worry: This doesn’t mean letting your kid “get away” with challenging or dangerous behavior. It means embodying your authority, connecting to your child, and teaching them the life-long skills they need to manage big feelings. If you love the Good Inside approach and struggle with the idea of no consequences, one thing is true: This episode is for you. Listen to the full episode: https://youtu.be/_wlzn6Oi1ls Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: Does Praise Have Unintended Consequences? - https://youtu.be/zK10qBLuc3A A Parent's #1 Job - https://youtu.be/dxM2cnLfHWA Setting Boundaries With Nedra Tawwab - https://youtu.be/oCHIJykb7qQ Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Yes, One-Year-Olds Have Tantrums - https://youtu.be/yE2To4sOHG8 #GoodInsidePodcast #DrBecky #parentingpodcast

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  • Dr. Becky

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    Clinical psychologist and host of the Good Inside parenting show.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky, Rethinking Consequences in Parenting explores why teaching regulation skills beats consequences in shaping kids’ behavior The episode challenges the common parenting belief that consequences are the primary way children learn to behave responsibly in adulthood.

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