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At a glance
WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Modern fatherhood through vulnerability, community, and playing the long game
- Joe Gonzales describes how becoming a dad intensified feelings of isolation and prompted him to create Brooklyn Stroll Club after realizing there was no clear, welcoming place for dads to find community.
- The conversation argues that parenting’s difficulty is often “hard plus alone,” and that building connection can’t remove the hard but can meaningfully reduce loneliness and reactivity.
- Joe frames parenting as both raising a child and “re-raising” parts of yourself, using everyday challenges (tantrums, biting, conflict) as mirrors that reveal unresolved patterns.
- They discuss an approach to toddler behavior that validates feelings while holding boundaries, emphasizing “the long game” of helping kids feel loved even during limits and frustration.
- The episode highlights repair (“I’m sorry”) as a core leadership skill in families, modeling accountability and emotional regulation for children and partners.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasCommunity doesn’t eliminate parenting stress, but it changes the loneliness equation.
Joe’s core move was creating a consistent space (online + meetups) where dads can normalize challenges, ask for help, and feel seen—reducing “hard plus alone.”
Many dads lack close friendships, which amplifies overwhelm during the transition to parenthood.
Joe cites a statistic that roughly half of men 25–45 report no close person, raising the stakes when fatherhood demands emotional availability and partnership support.
Validate feelings without surrendering leadership.
The stroller-tantrum example shows a both/and: naming the child’s distress (“this is hard”) while still carrying through with the plan (going to the park, getting in the stroller).
Your child’s behavior is often less activating than the story you tell yourself about it.
Biting or tantrums trigger parental shame and fear (“Is this forever? Am I failing?”); noticing that internal surge helps you respond calmly rather than from fight-or-flight.
Play the long game: aim for your child to feel loved during limits, not just comply quickly.
Joe’s line—“I don’t just want to get my kid to the park; I want my kid to feel loved the whole way”—reframes success as connection plus boundaries, not speed or silence.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesWe can't change the hard, we can change the alone.
— Dr. Becky
Brooklyn Stroll Club is a community for dads to feel seen and supported while giving a new voice to modern fatherhood.
— Joe Gonzales
It's his first time. It's not my first time.
— Joe Gonzales
I'm here to not only just get him to the park, I'm here for him to feel loved the entire way to the park.
— Joe Gonzales
We respond to the story we tell ourselves and the feelings that come up in us and all this thing, this stuff.
— Dr. Becky
SPEAKERS
Dr. Becky
hostClinical psychologist and host of the parenting podcast "Good Inside."
Joe Gonzales
guestFounder of Brooklyn Stroll Club and advocate for modern fatherhood and dad community-building.
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