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What Can I Do to Stop My Kid’s Aggressive Behavior?

When our child is kicking or biting someone, our first thought is probably, "How do I protect the other person?!" But here's something to consider: We also need to protect our child from associating their bad behavior with being a bad kid. In this episode, Dr. Becky advises three parents on how to respond to aggressive behavior while keeping everyone safe. She walks through distancing "the urge" from "the action," emotionally vaccinating kids for frustrating moments, and enforcing boundaries instead of punishments. In every situation, she gently reminds each caller that they're a good parent with a good kid. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: How Do I Handle Sibling Competition? - https://youtu.be/UMSFOzj_eOo Deep Dive: How Do We Respond to a Child’s Pretend Weapon Play? - https://youtu.be/5ghFWAVyyas Why Won't My Kids Listen To Anything I Say? - https://youtu.be/Rb7FSL1y3Oo Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY

Dr. Becky KennedyhostParent Caller 1guest
May 6, 202228mWatch on YouTube ↗

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EPISODE INFO

Released
May 6, 2022
Duration
28m
Channel
Good Inside with Dr. Becky
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

When our child is kicking or biting someone, our first thought is probably, "How do I protect the other person?!" But here's something to consider: We also need to protect our child from associating their bad behavior with being a bad kid. In this episode, Dr. Becky advises three parents on how to respond to aggressive behavior while keeping everyone safe. She walks through distancing "the urge" from "the action," emotionally vaccinating kids for frustrating moments, and enforcing boundaries instead of punishments. In every situation, she gently reminds each caller that they're a good parent with a good kid. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: How Do I Handle Sibling Competition? - https://youtu.be/UMSFOzj_eOo Deep Dive: How Do We Respond to a Child’s Pretend Weapon Play? - https://youtu.be/5ghFWAVyyas Why Won't My Kids Listen To Anything I Say? - https://youtu.be/Rb7FSL1y3Oo Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY

SPEAKERS

  • Dr. Becky Kennedy

    host

    Clinical psychologist and parenting expert; host of the Good Inside podcast.

  • Parent Caller 1

    guest

    Parent calling in for guidance about a child’s aggressive behavior.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky Kennedy and Parent Caller 1, What Can I Do to Stop My Kid’s Aggressive Behavior? explores reduce kids’ aggression by building regulation skills, not punishment cycles. Aggressive behavior is framed as a sign of dysregulation—kids act out because they feel out of control inside, not because they are “bad.”

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