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You're Not The Boss of Me!

It's time to reframe defiance. When our kids don't listen to us or are being "defiant" by doing the complete opposite of what we've asked them to do, it's important to remember that they are still good kids. They are good kids who need firm and loving boundaries, connection, and to feel a little powerful on occasion. This week, Dr. Becky chats with a mom struggling with her son's "defiant" behavior and who's looking for a way to reconnect and repair with him. Get the Good Inside App by Dr. Becky: https://bit.ly/3WvCDRn Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Order Dr. Becky's book, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, at goodinside.com/book or wherever you order your books. For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcast To listen to Dr. Becky's TED Talk on repair visit https://www.ted.com/talks/becky_kennedy_the_single_most_important_parenting_strategy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com (https://pcm.adswizz.com) for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dr. Becky KennedyhostAnonymous Momguest
Jun 6, 202337mWatch on YouTube ↗

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EPISODE INFO

Released
June 6, 2023
Duration
37m
Channel
Good Inside with Dr. Becky
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

It's time to reframe defiance. When our kids don't listen to us or are being "defiant" by doing the complete opposite of what we've asked them to do, it's important to remember that they are still good kids. They are good kids who need firm and loving boundaries, connection, and to feel a little powerful on occasion. This week, Dr. Becky chats with a mom struggling with her son's "defiant" behavior and who's looking for a way to reconnect and repair with him. Get the Good Inside App by Dr. Becky: https://bit.ly/3WvCDRn Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Order Dr. Becky's book, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, at goodinside.com/book or wherever you order your books. For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcast To listen to Dr. Becky's TED Talk on repair visit https://www.ted.com/talks/becky_kennedy_the_single_most_important_parenting_strategy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com (https://pcm.adswizz.com) for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

SPEAKERS

  • Dr. Becky Kennedy

    host

    Host of Good Inside and parenting expert providing coaching and strategies.

  • Anonymous Mom

    guest

    Caller/mom describing challenges with her young child’s defiance and seeking parenting guidance.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky Kennedy and Anonymous Mom, You're Not The Boss of Me! explores defiance reframed: firm boundaries, empathy, and power needs in kids So-called defiance often escalates when parents rely on repeated verbal commands instead of setting clear, physical, follow-through boundaries early.

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