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Jay Shetty PodcastLILI REINHART ON: YOU ARE STRONG - Anyone Who Feels Stressed & Anxious, WATCH THIS! | Jay Shetty
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Lili Reinhart on Anxiety, Identity, Feeling Deeply, and Creating Yourself
- Lili Reinhart describes panic attacks that made her quit early jobs at 18, and says her drive to act kept her going despite shame and comparison to her siblings.
- She says anxiety began around age 11 and that being told not to cry was harmful, arguing that feeling emotions fully is how people heal.
- Reinhart says she has lived in fight or flight mode and is learning to be alone and still without filling every gap in her calendar, and that she doesn't know who she is outside her work.
- Jay Shetty reframes the search for identity as creating who you want to be by examining inherited values and choosing new ones, a point Reinhart says shifted her thinking.
- Reinhart describes her spiritual exploration, including Reiki, sound healing and meditation, and her recent focus on gut health and diet, which she says has begun to ease her chronic fatigue.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasDrive can pull you out of a dark place
Reinhart says her ambition to be an actress kept her trying after she quit jobs because of panic attacks; she never gave herself a plan B and found work she could tolerate.
Feelings don't need to be justified
Reinhart says she spent years trying to find reasons for her anxiety and depression, and wishes she had been told she was allowed to cry and feel without defending herself.
Pain and joy come together
Reinhart imagines her soul choosing to experience every human emotion, which helps her see painful feelings as part of a capacity to feel deeply; Shetty adds that missing someone means you had something special.
Losing people who are still alive is an under-discussed grief
Reinhart says no one prepares you for how often people come and go, and that losing someone who still exists feels different from death. Shetty compares it to preparing for the seasons.
Create your identity instead of searching for it
Shetty says he listed his inherited values, asked where each came from, and chose new ones to practice. Reinhart says this changed her thinking, and she applies it to calling herself a pessimist and to her food choices.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesCrying is the most beautiful thing you can do. I encourage people to cry. I cry all the time, and I think it's the most healthy expression of how you're feeling.
— Lili Reinhart
The law that I would create is you are not allowed to tell another human being what they can and cannot feel, period.
— Lili Reinhart
We know who we are in relation to other people. And to things. But then when you take, like, take the roles away, what are you?
— Lili Reinhart
We're trying to figure out who we are rather than create who we are.
— Jay Shetty
I do not want to be someone who has to fill that void. I want to be able to be okay by myself, and that's a really hard thing to do.
— Lili Reinhart
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SPEAKERS
Lili Reinhart
guestActor and mental health advocate, known for her work in television and film.
Jay Shetty
hostPodcast host and author of "Think Like a Monk," known for interviews on wellbeing and purpose.
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