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Jay Shetty PodcastTOM HOLLAND: How Tom Overcame Social Anxiety- The Mindset That Changed Everything!
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Tom Holland on Sobriety, Social Media, Burnout and Staying Grounded
- Tom Holland says he deleted Instagram during The Crowded Room because he was addicted to a false version of his life, and he is upset that the press framed his break as a nervous breakdown.
- He credits his dad's resilience and his parents' steady support for his work ethic and his ability to shrug off bad reviews.
- Holland says he was addicted to alcohol, quit about a year and a half ago, and now sleeps better, thinks more clearly and feels happier; he credits replacements and supportive friends.
- The two compare gut instinct with Jay's monk-derived framework for decisions, and discuss how Holland separates his on-set emotions from his personal life.
- Holland describes staying grounded through family, golf and carpentry, and avoiding Hollywood, while swimming with orcas and the Jay's gorilla trek serve as stories about presence and humility.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasAsking for help should be celebrated
Holland says the message of The Crowded Room and his social media break is that seeking help should be met with a pat on the back, whether from a friend, therapist, teacher or colleague.
Watching a parent handle setbacks teaches resilience
Holland says his dad's ability to brush off a bad gig and keep going helps him cope with harsh critics, and he admires his dad's resilience through a career that plateaued.
Alcohol dependence can hide behind social acceptability
Holland says he was addicted to alcohol, worried about losing his social life, and found that he is naturally social and that the alcohol was just an additive.
Replacements and community make quitting stick
Holland found alternative drinks and a ritual that felt similar, while Jay explained the monk idea that you cannot give up a lower taste without a higher one, and both stressed learning from people further along.
A break from acting was about being home, not quitting
Holland says his time off was planned after a very hard job so he could stay in one place, be with family and friends, and learn the basics of adult life, and he felt the press spun it.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesA champion is someone who had it all, lost it all, and got it right back again.
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the message of our show is that asking for help should be something that we celebrate.
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I really am a massive fan of making movies, but I really do not like Hollywood. It is not for me.
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I've seen so many people come before me and lose themselves, and I've had friends that I've grown up with that aren't friends of mine anymore because they've lost themselves to this business.
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you can be mentored by people you've never met.
— Jay Shetty
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Jay Shetty
hostPodcast host and interviewer; former monk and bestselling author behind the show On Purpose.
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