Nessa Barrett ON How To Deal With Loneliness & Heal After A Breakup

Nessa says she would rather face the difficulties of her music career than do something she does not love. Jay adds that stress exists on every path, so the choice is which struggle you prefer.

Nessa says performing for thousands and then returning to an empty hotel room feels intensely lonely. She says it is hard to find trustworthy people in the industry, and she has found only about four.

Nessa says eating disorders look different on everyone and that outsiders cannot fully understand them. She suggests giving love, patience and grace instead of advice, and notes that being told she looks 'healthy' can trigger her.

Nessa explains that she cannot cut off contact the way people usually do after a breakup, because the relationship is constantly discussed and shown everywhere. Public speculation adds pain on top of her grief.

Nessa calls the bargaining phase the hardest because it leads to more heartbreak. She says recovering from codependency takes longest because you must learn to be your own comfort.