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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Three communication shifts to sound confident and earn respect at work
- Speaking more slowly creates a calmer tone that signals confidence and reduces perceived anxiety.
- Clear, non-wishy-washy language—especially starting with “Here is…”—helps others understand and respect your position even when you’re uncertain.
- Respect often increases when you set boundaries without apologizing, using direct stop-phrases and explicit consequences.
- You don’t need to change a bubbly or positive personality; you need steadier delivery during serious, high-stakes moments.
- Apologizing and over-justifying (especially around boundaries) tends to weaken authority and invites others to push further.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasSlow down to sound confident—even if your natural voice is higher.
Reducing speed naturally lowers pitch and removes the “question mark”/anxious energy that makes you sound uncertain, which in turn increases how grounded and credible you seem.
Calm is contagious; anxious delivery spreads tension.
Fisher notes that fast, excited speech can make listeners feel anxious too, while slower, steadier speech makes people more comfortable—and more likely to respect your message.
Respect increases when people can quickly tell where you stand.
Instead of hedging (“maybe…possibly…”), state your position plainly so others can evaluate it; even “I don’t have an opinion yet” can earn respect if it’s delivered clearly.
Use “Here is…” as a reliable opener for clarity and authority.
Phrases like “Here’s what I know,” “Here’s what I’ve heard,” and “Here’s where I stand” package your contribution as a deliberate statement rather than a tentative guess.
Set boundaries without apologizing or over-explaining them.
Apologies and justifications can make boundaries sound negotiable; direct language (“I need to stop you there”) communicates self-respect and steadiness under pressure.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesAnytime you have a voice that says, "I am not nervous. I am not threatened," a voice that says, "I am not anxious," and it all has to do with the, the tone of your voice.
— Jefferson Fisher
Whenever you slow down your words, you calm. You send a signal of calm whenever you slow down your words, lower your voice.
— Jefferson Fisher
I'll tell you who's not respected, the people who are always wishy-washy on things.
— Jefferson Fisher
A really easy way to be more respected in your meetings when you get asked for opinions is to begin with the phrase, "Here is."
— Jefferson Fisher
What I teach is just because somebody's uncomfortable with your boundary doesn't mean that that boundary is wrong. Typically means that that boundary is working.
— Jefferson Fisher
SPEAKERS
Jefferson Fisher
hostAttorney and communication coach who shares practical advice on confident workplace conversations.
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