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Lewis HowesDr Joe Dispenza on LOVE & Relationships “This Keeps 99% of People Single” (DO THIS TO FIND LOVE)
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Dr Joe Dispenza on Forgiveness, Self-Love, and Attracting Real Love
- Dispenza says finding love requires letting die everything in us that is not love, because emotions like resentment and fear are separations from love and keep people stuck in survival.
- He argues that forgiveness is the main thing successful couples do well, and that it means lowering the volume on an emotion until you no longer give a person your attention or energy.
- He claims that when people feel whole and make themselves happy, they stop needing others to do it for them, become more attractive and inspiring, and relate to everyone and everything differently.
- Dispenza describes his model of creating from the quantum field, in which a coherent brain sends out an intention signal and a coherent heart draws the experience back, while he cites oxytocin, heart coherence, and gamma brainwave data from his retreats.
- In closing, Howes asks what love would do, and Dispenza answers that it means being an example, making a difference in people's lives, and surrendering to love and the unknown.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasAnything that isn't love in us must die
Dispenza says finding love means undergoing a biological, neurological, chemical, and genetic death of the old self, so that overcoming emotions like fear and resentment becomes the process of becoming someone new.
Forgiveness means taking your attention off the emotion and the person
He describes forgiveness as regulating the emotion until it no longer holds you, which takes your power back and frees energy for creating a new future. He adds that people who are truly in love don't have to try to forgive.
Resentment keeps people living in their past
Dispenza says the brain predicts the next moment from the past, so holding a grudge recreates it. He also says analyzing life from within a disturbing emotion makes the brain worse, and that only the present moment holds the unknown.
Being in survival mode limits love
He says stress produces chemicals that make people feel something other than love, and that survival is not a time to create, communicate, or love, so relationships built on other emotions have a limit.
Happiness that doesn't depend on others makes you attractive
According to Dispenza, someone who makes themselves happy relates unconditionally and gives permission to others to show up differently. He says no one will make you happy until you make yourself happy.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesAnything that's not love in us must die.
— Dr. Joe Dispenza
If you can't forgive, you'll never have love.
— Dr. Joe Dispenza
The love that we withhold is the pain that we experience lifetime after lifetime.
— Dr. Joe Dispenza
I don't see things how they are, I see things how I am.
— Dr. Joe Dispenza
Falling in love with yourself is falling in love with life, and falling in love with life is falling in love with yourself.
— Dr. Joe Dispenza
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SPEAKERS
Dr. Joe Dispenza
guestResearcher and author known for teachings on meditation, neuroscience-informed personal change, and mind-body healing.
Lewis Howes
hostHost of The School of Greatness and interviewer/author focused on personal development and high performance.
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